Framingproblem ascommunicationsissue instead ofbehaviourClaiming sheneeds timetothink(withouttimeline)"You'reoverthinkingthis"Changingsubject thenaccountabilityhappensLeaving thedoor open"maybesome day""you'reimportant tome" withoutclarifyinghow"I need towork onmyselffirst"Turning the talkinto a metadiscussionabout the talkitselfGaslightingTears/EmotionalShutdown thatderailsconversation"Weboth didthings"Suggestshanging outas "friends"soonFocus onminor detailto avoid themain issue"I don'twant tolabelthings"Suddentraumadumping"I careabout youtoo much""I don'twant toruin ourfriendshipActingoverwhelmedSelectiveMemory"That's nothow Iremember it"Bringing upsharedmemories torekindleattachmentAnsweringquestionswithquestionsTreating yourfeelings as amisunderstandingClaimingshe didn'tnotice thepattern"I'mconfusedtoo"Framingproblem ascommunicationsissue instead ofbehaviourClaiming sheneeds timetothink(withouttimeline)"You'reoverthinkingthis"Changingsubject thenaccountabilityhappensLeaving thedoor open"maybesome day""you'reimportant tome" withoutclarifyinghow"I need towork onmyselffirst"Turning the talkinto a metadiscussionabout the talkitselfGaslightingTears/EmotionalShutdown thatderailsconversation"Weboth didthings"Suggestshanging outas "friends"soonFocus onminor detailto avoid themain issue"I don'twant tolabelthings"Suddentraumadumping"I careabout youtoo much""I don'twant toruin ourfriendshipActingoverwhelmedSelectiveMemory"That's nothow Iremember it"Bringing upsharedmemories torekindleattachmentAnsweringquestionswithquestionsTreating yourfeelings as amisunderstandingClaimingshe didn'tnotice thepattern"I'mconfusedtoo"

The talk - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. Framing problem as communications issue instead of behaviour
  2. Claiming she needs time to think(without timeline)
  3. "You're overthinking this"
  4. Changing subject then accountability happens
  5. Leaving the door open "maybe some day"
  6. "you're important to me" without clarifying how
  7. "I need to work on myself first"
  8. Turning the talk into a meta discussion about the talk itself
  9. Gaslighting
  10. Tears/Emotional Shutdown that derails conversation
  11. "We both did things"
  12. Suggests hanging out as "friends" soon
  13. Focus on minor detail to avoid the main issue
  14. "I don't want to label things"
  15. Sudden trauma dumping
  16. "I care about you too much"
  17. "I don't want to ruin our friendship
  18. Acting overwhelmed
  19. Selective Memory "That's not how I remember it"
  20. Bringing up shared memories to rekindle attachment
  21. Answering questions with questions
  22. Treating your feelings as a misunderstanding
  23. Claiming she didn't notice the pattern
  24. "I'm confused too"