Fairness & equality Asking for consent Safety & support Apologizing for mistakes and hurtful behavior Verbal or physical threats Dishonesty Telling them who they can and can’t spend time with Threatening to spread rumors or actually spreading rumors Enjoying time together and apart Lack of trust Mutual respect Hcwc.org Limiting time with friends & family Only spending time with each other Holding each other to the same standards Looking through phone, social media, or email without consent Loveisrespect.org Valuing each other’s feelings Checking In Pressure or force to do things you don’t want to do Yelling & screaming Extreme jealousy Pressure to change or feeling like you have to change to be accepted Dismissing feelings or concerns Making time for yourself & self-care Making decisions together Supportive adults & friends to talk to Not taking responsibility for abusive behavior Respecting boundaries (physical, emotional, digital, sexual) Reminders that abuse is not their fault Pushing boundaries Honesty Free! Communicating about feelings or concerns Pressure to share passwords & passcodes Righttobe.org Learning each other’s boundaries Communication that is hurtful or threatening Threatening to hurt themselves if you break up Be patient Stalking Safety planning Taking responsibility Building each other up Spending time together & reminding them they aren’t alone Communication Supporting one another Not being considerate of feelings or boundaries Not communicating Supporting them in making the decision best for them Telling someone what to wear or not wear Inequality (one partner’s feelings, goals, and desires always come first) Physical harm (hitting, pushing, throwing things) Patience & understanding Happiness & fun Moving at a comfortable pace Supporting interests & goals Validate their feelings Put downs & insults Using social media to track activities or friends Being yourself Believing someone when they share they are being hurt or abused Feeling unsafe or scared Being encouraging & supportive Trust Listening Compromise Respecting boundaries & everyone’s right to say no Asking what you can do to offer support Feeling like you can be yourself Unwanted, pressured, or forced physical contact Fairness & equality Asking for consent Safety & support Apologizing for mistakes and hurtful behavior Verbal or physical threats Dishonesty Telling them who they can and can’t spend time with Threatening to spread rumors or actually spreading rumors Enjoying time together and apart Lack of trust Mutual respect Hcwc.org Limiting time with friends & family Only spending time with each other Holding each other to the same standards Looking through phone, social media, or email without consent Loveisrespect.org Valuing each other’s feelings Checking In Pressure or force to do things you don’t want to do Yelling & screaming Extreme jealousy Pressure to change or feeling like you have to change to be accepted Dismissing feelings or concerns Making time for yourself & self-care Making decisions together Supportive adults & friends to talk to Not taking responsibility for abusive behavior Respecting boundaries (physical, emotional, digital, sexual) Reminders that abuse is not their fault Pushing boundaries Honesty Free! Communicating about feelings or concerns Pressure to share passwords & passcodes Righttobe.org Learning each other’s boundaries Communication that is hurtful or threatening Threatening to hurt themselves if you break up Be patient Stalking Safety planning Taking responsibility Building each other up Spending time together & reminding them they aren’t alone Communication Supporting one another Not being considerate of feelings or boundaries Not communicating Supporting them in making the decision best for them Telling someone what to wear or not wear Inequality (one partner’s feelings, goals, and desires always come first) Physical harm (hitting, pushing, throwing things) Patience & understanding Happiness & fun Moving at a comfortable pace Supporting interests & goals Validate their feelings Put downs & insults Using social media to track activities or friends Being yourself Believing someone when they share they are being hurt or abused Feeling unsafe or scared Being encouraging & supportive Trust Listening Compromise Respecting boundaries & everyone’s right to say no Asking what you can do to offer support Feeling like you can be yourself Unwanted, pressured, or forced physical contact
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B-Fairness & equality
G-Asking for consent
N-Safety & support
N-Apologizing for mistakes and hurtful behavior
I-Verbal or physical threats
N-Dishonesty
N-Telling them who they can and can’t spend time with
I-Threatening to spread rumors or actually spreading rumors
O-Enjoying time together and apart
O-Lack of trust
I-Mutual respect
O-Hcwc.org
G-Limiting time with friends & family
I-Only spending time with each other
O-Holding each other to the same standards
B-Looking through phone, social media, or email without consent
G-Loveisrespect.org
I-Valuing each other’s feelings
G-Checking In
N-Pressure or force to do things you don’t want to do
O-Yelling & screaming
I-Extreme jealousy
G-Pressure to change or feeling like you have to change to be accepted
B-Dismissing feelings or concerns
B-Making time for yourself & self-care
B-Making decisions together
B-Supportive adults & friends to talk to
I-Not taking responsibility for abusive behavior
G-Respecting boundaries (physical, emotional, digital, sexual)
N-Reminders that abuse is not their fault
N-Pushing boundaries
B-Honesty
N-Free!
I-Communicating about feelings or concerns
O-Pressure to share passwords & passcodes
I-Righttobe.org
N-Learning each other’s boundaries
B-Communication that is hurtful or threatening
B-Threatening to hurt themselves if you break up
G-Be patient
N-Stalking
I-Safety planning
B-Taking responsibility
G-Building each other up
N-Spending time together & reminding them they aren’t alone
B-Communication
N-Supporting one another
I-Not being considerate of feelings or boundaries
B-Not communicating
I-Supporting them in making the decision best for them
B-Telling someone what to wear or not wear
N-Inequality (one partner’s feelings, goals, and desires always come first)
O-Physical harm (hitting, pushing, throwing things)
I-Patience & understanding
G-Happiness & fun
I-Moving at a comfortable pace
O-Supporting interests & goals
B-Validate their feelings
G-Put downs & insults
G-Using social media to track activities or friends
O-Being yourself
N-Believing someone when they share they are being hurt or abused
G-Feeling unsafe or scared
N-Being encouraging & supportive
N-Trust
B-Listening
G-Compromise
G-Respecting boundaries & everyone’s right to say no
O-Asking what you can do to offer support
I-Feeling like you can be yourself
G-Unwanted, pressured, or forced physical contact
