Honesty Moving at a comfortable pace Respecting boundaries & everyone’s right to say no Making time for yourself & self-care Telling them who they can and can’t spend time with Feeling unsafe or scared Communication Asking for consent Looking through phone, social media, or email without consent Supportive adults & friends to talk to Inequality (one partner’s feelings, goals, and desires always come first) Pressure or force to do things you don’t want to do Learning each other’s boundaries Safety & support Mutual respect Respecting boundaries (physical, emotional, digital, sexual) Reminders that abuse is not their fault Holding each other to the same standards Happiness & fun Fairness & equality Asking what you can do to offer support Limiting time with friends & family Only spending time with each other Valuing each other’s feelings Supporting interests & goals Pressure to share passwords & passcodes Listening Unwanted, pressured, or forced physical contact Threatening to spread rumors or actually spreading rumors Verbal or physical threats Taking responsibility Validate their feelings Not communicating Checking In Put downs & insults Loveisrespect.org Stalking Compromise Using social media to track activities or friends Spending time together & reminding them they aren’t alone Being encouraging & supportive Lack of trust Pressure to change or feeling like you have to change to be accepted Not being considerate of feelings or boundaries Believing someone when they share they are being hurt or abused Feeling like you can be yourself Supporting them in making the decision best for them Trust Hcwc.org Righttobe.org Apologizing for mistakes and hurtful behavior Dismissing feelings or concerns Supporting one another Free! Be patient Enjoying time together and apart Dishonesty Building each other up Being yourself Not taking responsibility for abusive behavior Yelling & screaming Safety planning Extreme jealousy Telling someone what to wear or not wear Physical harm (hitting, pushing, throwing things) Communicating about feelings or concerns Communication that is hurtful or threatening Threatening to hurt themselves if you break up Pushing boundaries Patience & understanding Making decisions together Honesty Moving at a comfortable pace Respecting boundaries & everyone’s right to say no Making time for yourself & self-care Telling them who they can and can’t spend time with Feeling unsafe or scared Communication Asking for consent Looking through phone, social media, or email without consent Supportive adults & friends to talk to Inequality (one partner’s feelings, goals, and desires always come first) Pressure or force to do things you don’t want to do Learning each other’s boundaries Safety & support Mutual respect Respecting boundaries (physical, emotional, digital, sexual) Reminders that abuse is not their fault Holding each other to the same standards Happiness & fun Fairness & equality Asking what you can do to offer support Limiting time with friends & family Only spending time with each other Valuing each other’s feelings Supporting interests & goals Pressure to share passwords & passcodes Listening Unwanted, pressured, or forced physical contact Threatening to spread rumors or actually spreading rumors Verbal or physical threats Taking responsibility Validate their feelings Not communicating Checking In Put downs & insults Loveisrespect.org Stalking Compromise Using social media to track activities or friends Spending time together & reminding them they aren’t alone Being encouraging & supportive Lack of trust Pressure to change or feeling like you have to change to be accepted Not being considerate of feelings or boundaries Believing someone when they share they are being hurt or abused Feeling like you can be yourself Supporting them in making the decision best for them Trust Hcwc.org Righttobe.org Apologizing for mistakes and hurtful behavior Dismissing feelings or concerns Supporting one another Free! Be patient Enjoying time together and apart Dishonesty Building each other up Being yourself Not taking responsibility for abusive behavior Yelling & screaming Safety planning Extreme jealousy Telling someone what to wear or not wear Physical harm (hitting, pushing, throwing things) Communicating about feelings or concerns Communication that is hurtful or threatening Threatening to hurt themselves if you break up Pushing boundaries Patience & understanding Making decisions together
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B-Honesty
I-Moving at a comfortable pace
G-Respecting boundaries & everyone’s right to say no
B-Making time for yourself & self-care
N-Telling them who they can and can’t spend time with
G-Feeling unsafe or scared
B-Communication
G-Asking for consent
B-Looking through phone, social media, or email without consent
B-Supportive adults & friends to talk to
N-Inequality (one partner’s feelings, goals, and desires always come first)
N-Pressure or force to do things you don’t want to do
N-Learning each other’s boundaries
N-Safety & support
I-Mutual respect
G-Respecting boundaries (physical, emotional, digital, sexual)
N-Reminders that abuse is not their fault
O-Holding each other to the same standards
G-Happiness & fun
B-Fairness & equality
O-Asking what you can do to offer support
G-Limiting time with friends & family
I-Only spending time with each other
I-Valuing each other’s feelings
O-Supporting interests & goals
O-Pressure to share passwords & passcodes
B-Listening
G-Unwanted, pressured, or forced physical contact
I-Threatening to spread rumors or actually spreading rumors
I-Verbal or physical threats
B-Taking responsibility
B-Validate their feelings
B-Not communicating
G-Checking In
G-Put downs & insults
G-Loveisrespect.org
N-Stalking
G-Compromise
G-Using social media to track activities or friends
N-Spending time together & reminding them they aren’t alone
N-Being encouraging & supportive
O-Lack of trust
G-Pressure to change or feeling like you have to change to be accepted
I-Not being considerate of feelings or boundaries
N-Believing someone when they share they are being hurt or abused
I-Feeling like you can be yourself
I-Supporting them in making the decision best for them
N-Trust
O-Hcwc.org
I-Righttobe.org
N-Apologizing for mistakes and hurtful behavior
B-Dismissing feelings or concerns
N-Supporting one another
N-Free!
G-Be patient
O-Enjoying time together and apart
N-Dishonesty
G-Building each other up
O-Being yourself
I-Not taking responsibility for abusive behavior
O-Yelling & screaming
I-Safety planning
I-Extreme jealousy
B-Telling someone what to wear or not wear
O-Physical harm (hitting, pushing, throwing things)
I-Communicating about feelings or concerns
B-Communication that is hurtful or threatening
B-Threatening to hurt themselves if you break up
N-Pushing boundaries
I-Patience & understanding
B-Making decisions together
