Held to aharsherstandardthan siblingsConstantlycriticized,even for well-intentionedactionsDifficultytrusting yourownperceptionsof realityTerrified ofmakingmistakes, eventiny ones.(Perfectionism)Chronic,overwhelmingguilt -apologizingfor existingComparedunfavorablyto the‘responsible’siblingLeft out offamily eventsor photosintentionallyAvoids eyecontact orspecificpeople/placesto feel saferBlamedfor thingsyou didn'tdoSiblings orother familymembersjoined inagainst youYour genuineemotionalreaction wascalled ‘attitude’or ‘disrespect’Hypervigilant- constantlyscanningrooms fordangerTold you're"toosensitive,""dramatic,"or "crazy"Deep-seatedbelief you arefundamentally"bad"DifficultyacceptingcomplimentsYou wereblamed for thefamily’s tension— even whenyou weren’tthereFeeling likethe family'scontainer forall theirshameFelt like the"truth teller"who getspunishedGood newsabout you wasmocked ortwisted intosomethingnegativeWantscloseness butfears it; feelssafer alone butlonely eitherway”Eitherextremepeople-pleasing orreactive angerFierceindependence(learned noone will help)Yourachievementsare minimizedor ignoredYourmistakes aremagnifiedand neverforgottenYour winswere met withsilence or aquick changeof subjectHeld to aharsherstandardthan siblingsConstantlycriticized,even for well-intentionedactionsDifficultytrusting yourownperceptionsof realityTerrified ofmakingmistakes, eventiny ones.(Perfectionism)Chronic,overwhelmingguilt -apologizingfor existingComparedunfavorablyto the‘responsible’siblingLeft out offamily eventsor photosintentionallyAvoids eyecontact orspecificpeople/placesto feel saferBlamedfor thingsyou didn'tdoSiblings orother familymembersjoined inagainst youYour genuineemotionalreaction wascalled ‘attitude’or ‘disrespect’Hypervigilant- constantlyscanningrooms fordangerTold you're"toosensitive,""dramatic,"or "crazy"Deep-seatedbelief you arefundamentally"bad"DifficultyacceptingcomplimentsYou wereblamed for thefamily’s tension— even whenyou weren’tthereFeeling likethe family'scontainer forall theirshameFelt like the"truth teller"who getspunishedGood newsabout you wasmocked ortwisted intosomethingnegativeWantscloseness butfears it; feelssafer alone butlonely eitherway”Eitherextremepeople-pleasing orreactive angerFierceindependence(learned noone will help)Yourachievementsare minimizedor ignoredYourmistakes aremagnifiedand neverforgottenYour winswere met withsilence or aquick changeof subject

Scapegoat - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. N-Held to a harsher standard than siblings
  2. I-Constantly criticized, even for well-intentioned actions
  3. O-Difficulty trusting your own perceptions of reality
  4. B-Terrified of making mistakes, even tiny ones. (Perfectionism)
  5. I-Chronic, overwhelming guilt - apologizing for existing
  6. N-Compared unfavorably to the ‘responsible’ sibling
  7. I-Left out of family events or photos intentionally
  8. G-Avoids eye contact or specific people/places to feel safer
  9. B-Blamed for things you didn't do
  10. N-Siblings or other family members joined in against you
  11. O-Your genuine emotional reaction was called ‘attitude’ or ‘disrespect’
  12. G-Hypervigilant - constantly scanning rooms for danger
  13. I-Told you're "too sensitive," "dramatic," or "crazy"
  14. B-Deep-seated belief you are fundamentally "bad"
  15. O-Difficulty accepting compliments
  16. N-You were blamed for the family’s tension — even when you weren’t there
  17. B-Feeling like the family's container for all their shame
  18. B-Felt like the "truth teller" who gets punished
  19. N-Good news about you was mocked or twisted into something negative
  20. I-Wants closeness but fears it; feels safer alone but lonely either way”
  21. O-Either extreme people-pleasing or reactive anger
  22. G-Fierce independence (learned no one will help)
  23. G-Your achievements are minimized or ignored
  24. O-Your mistakes are magnified and never forgotten
  25. G-Your wins were met with silence or a quick change of subject