Wantscloseness butfears it; feelssafer alone butlonely eitherway”Held to aharsherstandardthan siblingsFeeling likethe family'scontainer forall theirshameYour genuineemotionalreaction wascalled ‘attitude’or ‘disrespect’Difficultytrusting yourownperceptionsof realityFelt like the"truth teller"who getspunishedHypervigilant- constantlyscanningrooms fordangerFierceindependence(learned noone will help)DifficultyacceptingcomplimentsComparedunfavorablyto the‘responsible’siblingYourmistakes aremagnifiedand neverforgottenAvoids eyecontact orspecificpeople/placesto feel saferTerrified ofmakingmistakes, eventiny ones.(Perfectionism)Siblings orother familymembersjoined inagainst youGood newsabout you wasmocked ortwisted intosomethingnegativeLeft out offamily eventsor photosintentionallyTold you're"toosensitive,""dramatic,"or "crazy"Yourachievementsare minimizedor ignoredBlamedfor thingsyou didn'tdoYour winswere met withsilence or aquick changeof subjectConstantlycriticized,even for well-intentionedactionsDeep-seatedbelief you arefundamentally"bad"Eitherextremepeople-pleasing orreactive angerYou wereblamed for thefamily’s tension— even whenyou weren’tthereChronic,overwhelmingguilt -apologizingfor existingWantscloseness butfears it; feelssafer alone butlonely eitherway”Held to aharsherstandardthan siblingsFeeling likethe family'scontainer forall theirshameYour genuineemotionalreaction wascalled ‘attitude’or ‘disrespect’Difficultytrusting yourownperceptionsof realityFelt like the"truth teller"who getspunishedHypervigilant- constantlyscanningrooms fordangerFierceindependence(learned noone will help)DifficultyacceptingcomplimentsComparedunfavorablyto the‘responsible’siblingYourmistakes aremagnifiedand neverforgottenAvoids eyecontact orspecificpeople/placesto feel saferTerrified ofmakingmistakes, eventiny ones.(Perfectionism)Siblings orother familymembersjoined inagainst youGood newsabout you wasmocked ortwisted intosomethingnegativeLeft out offamily eventsor photosintentionallyTold you're"toosensitive,""dramatic,"or "crazy"Yourachievementsare minimizedor ignoredBlamedfor thingsyou didn'tdoYour winswere met withsilence or aquick changeof subjectConstantlycriticized,even for well-intentionedactionsDeep-seatedbelief you arefundamentally"bad"Eitherextremepeople-pleasing orreactive angerYou wereblamed for thefamily’s tension— even whenyou weren’tthereChronic,overwhelmingguilt -apologizingfor existing

Scapegoat - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. I-Wants closeness but fears it; feels safer alone but lonely either way”
  2. N-Held to a harsher standard than siblings
  3. B-Feeling like the family's container for all their shame
  4. O-Your genuine emotional reaction was called ‘attitude’ or ‘disrespect’
  5. O-Difficulty trusting your own perceptions of reality
  6. B-Felt like the "truth teller" who gets punished
  7. G-Hypervigilant - constantly scanning rooms for danger
  8. G-Fierce independence (learned no one will help)
  9. O-Difficulty accepting compliments
  10. N-Compared unfavorably to the ‘responsible’ sibling
  11. O-Your mistakes are magnified and never forgotten
  12. G-Avoids eye contact or specific people/places to feel safer
  13. B-Terrified of making mistakes, even tiny ones. (Perfectionism)
  14. N-Siblings or other family members joined in against you
  15. N-Good news about you was mocked or twisted into something negative
  16. I-Left out of family events or photos intentionally
  17. I-Told you're "too sensitive," "dramatic," or "crazy"
  18. G-Your achievements are minimized or ignored
  19. B-Blamed for things you didn't do
  20. G-Your wins were met with silence or a quick change of subject
  21. I-Constantly criticized, even for well-intentioned actions
  22. B-Deep-seated belief you are fundamentally "bad"
  23. O-Either extreme people-pleasing or reactive anger
  24. N-You were blamed for the family’s tension — even when you weren’t there
  25. I-Chronic, overwhelming guilt - apologizing for existing