You wereblamed for thefamily’s tension— even whenyou weren’tthereGood newsabout you wasmocked ortwisted intosomethingnegativeComparedunfavorablyto the‘responsible’siblingTerrified ofmakingmistakes, eventiny ones.(Perfectionism)Constantlycriticized,even for well-intentionedactionsDifficultytrusting yourownperceptionsof realityHypervigilant- constantlyscanningrooms fordangerChronic,overwhelmingguilt -apologizingfor existingTold you're"toosensitive,""dramatic,"or "crazy"Felt like the"truth teller"who getspunishedFierceindependence(learned noone will help)Deep-seatedbelief you arefundamentally"bad"Your genuineemotionalreaction wascalled ‘attitude’or ‘disrespect’Your winswere met withsilence or aquick changeof subjectFeeling likethe family'scontainer forall theirshameLeft out offamily eventsor photosintentionallyBlamedfor thingsyou didn'tdoSiblings orother familymembersjoined inagainst youWantscloseness butfears it; feelssafer alone butlonely eitherway”Avoids eyecontact orspecificpeople/placesto feel saferHeld to aharsherstandardthan siblingsYourachievementsare minimizedor ignoredYourmistakes aremagnifiedand neverforgottenDifficultyacceptingcomplimentsEitherextremepeople-pleasing orreactive angerYou wereblamed for thefamily’s tension— even whenyou weren’tthereGood newsabout you wasmocked ortwisted intosomethingnegativeComparedunfavorablyto the‘responsible’siblingTerrified ofmakingmistakes, eventiny ones.(Perfectionism)Constantlycriticized,even for well-intentionedactionsDifficultytrusting yourownperceptionsof realityHypervigilant- constantlyscanningrooms fordangerChronic,overwhelmingguilt -apologizingfor existingTold you're"toosensitive,""dramatic,"or "crazy"Felt like the"truth teller"who getspunishedFierceindependence(learned noone will help)Deep-seatedbelief you arefundamentally"bad"Your genuineemotionalreaction wascalled ‘attitude’or ‘disrespect’Your winswere met withsilence or aquick changeof subjectFeeling likethe family'scontainer forall theirshameLeft out offamily eventsor photosintentionallyBlamedfor thingsyou didn'tdoSiblings orother familymembersjoined inagainst youWantscloseness butfears it; feelssafer alone butlonely eitherway”Avoids eyecontact orspecificpeople/placesto feel saferHeld to aharsherstandardthan siblingsYourachievementsare minimizedor ignoredYourmistakes aremagnifiedand neverforgottenDifficultyacceptingcomplimentsEitherextremepeople-pleasing orreactive anger

Scapegoat - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. N-You were blamed for the family’s tension — even when you weren’t there
  2. N-Good news about you was mocked or twisted into something negative
  3. N-Compared unfavorably to the ‘responsible’ sibling
  4. B-Terrified of making mistakes, even tiny ones. (Perfectionism)
  5. I-Constantly criticized, even for well-intentioned actions
  6. O-Difficulty trusting your own perceptions of reality
  7. G-Hypervigilant - constantly scanning rooms for danger
  8. I-Chronic, overwhelming guilt - apologizing for existing
  9. I-Told you're "too sensitive," "dramatic," or "crazy"
  10. B-Felt like the "truth teller" who gets punished
  11. G-Fierce independence (learned no one will help)
  12. B-Deep-seated belief you are fundamentally "bad"
  13. O-Your genuine emotional reaction was called ‘attitude’ or ‘disrespect’
  14. G-Your wins were met with silence or a quick change of subject
  15. B-Feeling like the family's container for all their shame
  16. I-Left out of family events or photos intentionally
  17. B-Blamed for things you didn't do
  18. N-Siblings or other family members joined in against you
  19. I-Wants closeness but fears it; feels safer alone but lonely either way”
  20. G-Avoids eye contact or specific people/places to feel safer
  21. N-Held to a harsher standard than siblings
  22. G-Your achievements are minimized or ignored
  23. O-Your mistakes are magnified and never forgotten
  24. O-Difficulty accepting compliments
  25. O-Either extreme people-pleasing or reactive anger