Bewilling toforgiveFocus onthe problemnot thepersonExploreoptions andsolutionstogetherFocuson thepresentValidatethe otherperson'sconcernsBe specificabout whatis botheringyou - Stay inthe presentUnhealthyresponsesvs. healthyresponsesUse activelistening -don't justwait torespondDon't attackbelow the belt -attacking areasof personalsensitivityAgree toDisagreeLack ofunderstandingcan result indistance,arguments, andeven break upsEmotionalawareness -key tounderstandingyourself andothersRemainrelaxed andfocused intensesituationsImprove yourverbal andnonverbalcommunicationConflict isnormal andeven healthypart ofrelationshipsDon'tgeneralize"Never""Always"Use "I"StatementsAskquestionsrather thanmakeaccusationsKnow whento walk away andtake a time-outChoosecompassionBe awareandrespectful ofdifferencesRestatewhat youhaveheardRecognizeand manageyouremotionsFREESPACEBewilling toforgiveFocus onthe problemnot thepersonExploreoptions andsolutionstogetherFocuson thepresentValidatethe otherperson'sconcernsBe specificabout whatis botheringyou - Stay inthe presentUnhealthyresponsesvs. healthyresponsesUse activelistening -don't justwait torespondDon't attackbelow the belt -attacking areasof personalsensitivityAgree toDisagreeLack ofunderstandingcan result indistance,arguments, andeven break upsEmotionalawareness -key tounderstandingyourself andothersRemainrelaxed andfocused intensesituationsImprove yourverbal andnonverbalcommunicationConflict isnormal andeven healthypart ofrelationshipsDon'tgeneralize"Never""Always"Use "I"StatementsAskquestionsrather thanmakeaccusationsKnow whento walk away andtake a time-outChoosecompassionBe awareandrespectful ofdifferencesRestatewhat youhaveheardRecognizeand manageyouremotionsFREESPACE

Conflict Resolution - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. O-Be willing to forgive
  2. I-Focus on the problem not the person
  3. G-Explore options and solutions together
  4. B-Focus on the present
  5. G-Validate the other person's concerns
  6. B-Be specific about what is bothering you - Stay in the present
  7. N-Unhealthy responses vs. healthy responses
  8. I-Use active listening - don't just wait to respond
  9. N-Don't attack below the belt - attacking areas of personal sensitivity
  10. I-Agree to Disagree
  11. I-Lack of understanding can result in distance, arguments, and even break ups
  12. O-Emotional awareness - key to understanding yourself and others
  13. G-Remain relaxed and focused in tense situations
  14. B-Improve your verbal and nonverbal communication
  15. B-Conflict is normal and even healthy part of relationships
  16. O-Don't generalize "Never" "Always"
  17. N-Use "I" Statements
  18. B-Ask questions rather than make accusations
  19. G-Know when to walk a way and take a time-out
  20. O-Choose compassion
  21. I-Be aware and respectful of differences
  22. O-Restate what you have heard
  23. G-Recognize and manage your emotions
  24. N-FREE SPACE