don'tassumedon'tgeneralizerephrase ifyou don'tunderstandsomethingtalk whenyou areboth calmlisten tothe otherpersonwatchyour non-verbalcueswatchyour toneof voicerespectothers'feelingsdon'tcross yourarmssay "Ifeel" not"Youdid...!"don't invadeothers'personalspacedon'tdismisssomeone'sfeelingslook at itfrom theotherperson's sideclarifysomethingif you'renot sureyou don'thave tobe crueltake a deepbreathbeforespeakingthinkbeforeyou talkdon't bringup smallissuesnoname-callingtreat othershow youwant to betreateddon'tyellwords &bodylanguageshould matchdon'tbring upthe pastdon'tplaceblameuse goodeyecontactdon'tbelittleotherspayattention towhat othersare sayingdon't sayyoualways oryou neverdon'tinterruptdon'tassumedon'tgeneralizerephrase ifyou don'tunderstandsomethingtalk whenyou areboth calmlisten tothe otherpersonwatchyour non-verbalcueswatchyour toneof voicerespectothers'feelingsdon'tcross yourarmssay "Ifeel" not"Youdid...!"don't invadeothers'personalspacedon'tdismisssomeone'sfeelingslook at itfrom theotherperson's sideclarifysomethingif you'renot sureyou don'thave tobe crueltake a deepbreathbeforespeakingthinkbeforeyou talkdon't bringup smallissuesnoname-callingtreat othershow youwant to betreateddon'tyellwords &bodylanguageshould matchdon'tbring upthe pastdon'tplaceblameuse goodeyecontactdon'tbelittleotherspayattention towhat othersare sayingdon't sayyoualways oryou neverdon'tinterrupt

Arguing Effectively - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. don't assume
  2. don't generalize
  3. rephrase if you don't understand something
  4. talk when you are both calm
  5. listen to the other person
  6. watch your non-verbal cues
  7. watch your tone of voice
  8. respect others' feelings
  9. don't cross your arms
  10. say "I feel" not "You did...!"
  11. don't invade others' personal space
  12. don't dismiss someone's feelings
  13. look at it from the other person's side
  14. clarify something if you're not sure
  15. you don't have to be cruel
  16. take a deep breath before speaking
  17. think before you talk
  18. don't bring up small issues
  19. no name-calling
  20. treat others how you want to be treated
  21. don't yell
  22. words & body language should match
  23. don't bring up the past
  24. don't place blame
  25. use good eye contact
  26. don't belittle others
  27. pay attention to what others are saying
  28. don't say you always or you never
  29. don't interrupt