"I alwaysloved you"(abuseamnesia)*invalidates,ignores and/orminimizesyourexperience*Toxic andgroomedby theabuser"I stillwant tokeepcontact!"Socialmediastalking*tries to hoveryou back toabuse circlewith lovebombing*"He issorry youfelt thatway""Look at you!Doing sogreat!" (a.k.a.Let us ruin itfor you again)Youare thefamily!*best thingsinceslicedbread*"I'm happyyou arefine nowbut...""Hechanged!""Iunderstandyou, but..."It's the oneyourtherapistwarned youabout"Look howmuch he'sdone foryou!""I alwayssupportedyou""You acted sohostile!"(when youdared to protectyourself)*sweetcomments +likes onsocialmedia*Ignoresand/ordenies yourfeelings*playsgoodSamaritancard*"If you wantto talk..." (+getssurprised ifyou don't)"I don'tsee it likethat, I seethat you..."*tries to talkabout youwith yourloved ones**Gaslightinglevel hard*Denies you theright to protectyourself"I alwaysloved you"(abuseamnesia)*invalidates,ignores and/orminimizesyourexperience*Toxic andgroomedby theabuser"I stillwant tokeepcontact!"Socialmediastalking*tries to hoveryou back toabuse circlewith lovebombing*"He issorry youfelt thatway""Look at you!Doing sogreat!" (a.k.a.Let us ruin itfor you again)Youare thefamily!*best thingsinceslicedbread*"I'm happyyou arefine nowbut...""Hechanged!""Iunderstandyou, but..."It's the oneyourtherapistwarned youabout"Look howmuch he'sdone foryou!""I alwayssupportedyou""You acted sohostile!"(when youdared to protectyourself)*sweetcomments +likes onsocialmedia*Ignoresand/ordenies yourfeelings*playsgoodSamaritancard*"If you wantto talk..." (+getssurprised ifyou don't)"I don'tsee it likethat, I seethat you..."*tries to talkabout youwith yourloved ones**Gaslightinglevel hard*Denies you theright to protectyourself

Abuse Enabler - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. "I always loved you" (abuse amnesia)
  2. *invalidates, ignores and/or minimizes your experience*
  3. Toxic and groomed by the abuser
  4. "I still want to keep contact!"
  5. Social media stalking
  6. *tries to hover you back to abuse circle with love bombing*
  7. "He is sorry you felt that way"
  8. "Look at you! Doing so great!" (a.k.a. Let us ruin it for you again)
  9. You are the family!
  10. *best thing since sliced bread*
  11. "I'm happy you are fine now but..."
  12. "He changed!"
  13. "I understand you, but..."
  14. It's the one your therapist warned you about
  15. "Look how much he's done for you!"
  16. "I always supported you"
  17. "You acted so hostile!" (when you dared to protect yourself)
  18. *sweet comments + likes on social media*
  19. Ignores and/or denies your feelings
  20. *plays good Samaritan card*
  21. "If you want to talk..." (+ gets surprised if you don't)
  22. "I don't see it like that, I see that you..."
  23. *tries to talk about you with your loved ones*
  24. *Gaslighting level hard* Denies you the right to protect yourself