*tries to talkabout youwith yourloved ones*"I alwaysloved you"(abuseamnesia)"I don'tsee it likethat, I seethat you...""Look at you!Doing sogreat!" (a.k.a.Let us ruin itfor you again)"Iunderstandyou, but..."It's the oneyourtherapistwarned youaboutToxic andgroomedby theabuserSocialmediastalking"I'm happyyou arefine nowbut..."*invalidates,ignores and/orminimizesyourexperience*"You acted sohostile!"(when youdared to protectyourself)"If you wantto talk..." (+getssurprised ifyou don't)"He issorry youfelt thatway"*best thingsinceslicedbread*"I alwayssupportedyou"Youare thefamily!"I stillwant tokeepcontact!""Hechanged!""Look howmuch he'sdone foryou!"Ignoresand/ordenies yourfeelings*sweetcomments +likes onsocialmedia**Gaslightinglevel hard*Denies you theright to protectyourself*tries to hoveryou back toabuse circlewith lovebombing**playsgoodSamaritancard**tries to talkabout youwith yourloved ones*"I alwaysloved you"(abuseamnesia)"I don'tsee it likethat, I seethat you...""Look at you!Doing sogreat!" (a.k.a.Let us ruin itfor you again)"Iunderstandyou, but..."It's the oneyourtherapistwarned youaboutToxic andgroomedby theabuserSocialmediastalking"I'm happyyou arefine nowbut..."*invalidates,ignores and/orminimizesyourexperience*"You acted sohostile!"(when youdared to protectyourself)"If you wantto talk..." (+getssurprised ifyou don't)"He issorry youfelt thatway"*best thingsinceslicedbread*"I alwayssupportedyou"Youare thefamily!"I stillwant tokeepcontact!""Hechanged!""Look howmuch he'sdone foryou!"Ignoresand/ordenies yourfeelings*sweetcomments +likes onsocialmedia**Gaslightinglevel hard*Denies you theright to protectyourself*tries to hoveryou back toabuse circlewith lovebombing**playsgoodSamaritancard*

Abuse Enabler - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. *tries to talk about you with your loved ones*
  2. "I always loved you" (abuse amnesia)
  3. "I don't see it like that, I see that you..."
  4. "Look at you! Doing so great!" (a.k.a. Let us ruin it for you again)
  5. "I understand you, but..."
  6. It's the one your therapist warned you about
  7. Toxic and groomed by the abuser
  8. Social media stalking
  9. "I'm happy you are fine now but..."
  10. *invalidates, ignores and/or minimizes your experience*
  11. "You acted so hostile!" (when you dared to protect yourself)
  12. "If you want to talk..." (+ gets surprised if you don't)
  13. "He is sorry you felt that way"
  14. *best thing since sliced bread*
  15. "I always supported you"
  16. You are the family!
  17. "I still want to keep contact!"
  18. "He changed!"
  19. "Look how much he's done for you!"
  20. Ignores and/or denies your feelings
  21. *sweet comments + likes on social media*
  22. *Gaslighting level hard* Denies you the right to protect yourself
  23. *tries to hover you back to abuse circle with love bombing*
  24. *plays good Samaritan card*