"I'm happyyou arefine nowbut..."*Gaslightinglevel hard*Denies you theright to protectyourself"I alwaysloved you"(abuseamnesia)Ignoresand/ordenies yourfeelingsToxic andgroomedby theabuser*playsgoodSamaritancard*"Hechanged!""If you wantto talk..." (+getssurprised ifyou don't)"I don'tsee it likethat, I seethat you...""Look at you!Doing sogreat!" (a.k.a.Let us ruin itfor you again)*sweetcomments +likes onsocialmedia*Youare thefamily!"Iunderstandyou, but..."*tries to hoveryou back toabuse circlewith lovebombing*Socialmediastalking"Look howmuch he'sdone foryou!""You acted sohostile!"(when youdared to protectyourself)"I alwayssupportedyou"*best thingsinceslicedbread*"He issorry youfelt thatway""I stillwant tokeepcontact!"*tries to talkabout youwith yourloved ones**invalidates,ignores and/orminimizesyourexperience*It's the oneyourtherapistwarned youabout"I'm happyyou arefine nowbut..."*Gaslightinglevel hard*Denies you theright to protectyourself"I alwaysloved you"(abuseamnesia)Ignoresand/ordenies yourfeelingsToxic andgroomedby theabuser*playsgoodSamaritancard*"Hechanged!""If you wantto talk..." (+getssurprised ifyou don't)"I don'tsee it likethat, I seethat you...""Look at you!Doing sogreat!" (a.k.a.Let us ruin itfor you again)*sweetcomments +likes onsocialmedia*Youare thefamily!"Iunderstandyou, but..."*tries to hoveryou back toabuse circlewith lovebombing*Socialmediastalking"Look howmuch he'sdone foryou!""You acted sohostile!"(when youdared to protectyourself)"I alwayssupportedyou"*best thingsinceslicedbread*"He issorry youfelt thatway""I stillwant tokeepcontact!"*tries to talkabout youwith yourloved ones**invalidates,ignores and/orminimizesyourexperience*It's the oneyourtherapistwarned youabout

Abuse Enabler - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. "I'm happy you are fine now but..."
  2. *Gaslighting level hard* Denies you the right to protect yourself
  3. "I always loved you" (abuse amnesia)
  4. Ignores and/or denies your feelings
  5. Toxic and groomed by the abuser
  6. *plays good Samaritan card*
  7. "He changed!"
  8. "If you want to talk..." (+ gets surprised if you don't)
  9. "I don't see it like that, I see that you..."
  10. "Look at you! Doing so great!" (a.k.a. Let us ruin it for you again)
  11. *sweet comments + likes on social media*
  12. You are the family!
  13. "I understand you, but..."
  14. *tries to hover you back to abuse circle with love bombing*
  15. Social media stalking
  16. "Look how much he's done for you!"
  17. "You acted so hostile!" (when you dared to protect yourself)
  18. "I always supported you"
  19. *best thing since sliced bread*
  20. "He is sorry you felt that way"
  21. "I still want to keep contact!"
  22. *tries to talk about you with your loved ones*
  23. *invalidates, ignores and/or minimizes your experience*
  24. It's the one your therapist warned you about