PEERPRESSURE Using socialclout toinfluencesomeone todo something.Avoidance Staying too busyor distant, soyou don't haveto deal with theconflict.RESPECT Payingattention to,listening toothers becausethey areimportant.  TRUST &SUPPORT Being ok withfriends havingother friends.Encouragingyour friends.INTIMIDATIONUsinggestures/bodylanguage tomake othersafraid. sense ofentitlement thinking &acting likeyou deservespecialtreatment  ActingOut Using physicalforce, instead ofusing words, toshow how youfeel.Minimization Downplayingthesignificance ofwhat you'vedone wrong.Blame Refusing to look atyour own behaviorand only looking atwhat the otherperson did wrong. SAFEBEHAVIORAct soothers feelsafe & cansay “NO”. SHAREDPOWERMakedecisionstogether.Neither oneis in control.THREATSSaying you aregoing to dosomethingharmful toyourself orothersHONESTY &ACCOUNTABILITY Admitting itwhen youare wrong.Keepingpromises.ISOLATION Using jealousyto control whoyour friendhangs out with.SELFCONFIDENCE/ PERSONALGROWTHEncouragingyour friend tolikehimself/herself& be a betterperson.NEGOTIATION& FAIRNESS Workingtogether,compromise,agree todisagreesometimesDenial Refusing toacknowledge thetruth about whatyou've done wrongor what you arefeeling.IntellectualizationActing like arobot, likeyou don'thavefeelings.EMOTIONALABUSE Put downsandmanipulation.VIOLATESYOURPRIVACYTouching you/yourbelongings, and/orinvading yourspace withoutpermission.HUMILIATIONMakedecisionstogether.Neither oneis in control.Rationalization&JustificationMaking excusesfor yourselfinstead of takingresponsibility foryour behaviorOPENCOMMUNICATIONBeingassertiveand using “Istatements”HARASSMENTIntentionally& repeatedlyaggravatingsomeone.PEERPRESSURE Using socialclout toinfluencesomeone todo something.Avoidance Staying too busyor distant, soyou don't haveto deal with theconflict.RESPECT Payingattention to,listening toothers becausethey areimportant.  TRUST &SUPPORT Being ok withfriends havingother friends.Encouragingyour friends.INTIMIDATIONUsinggestures/bodylanguage tomake othersafraid. sense ofentitlement thinking &acting likeyou deservespecialtreatment  ActingOut Using physicalforce, instead ofusing words, toshow how youfeel.Minimization Downplayingthesignificance ofwhat you'vedone wrong.Blame Refusing to look atyour own behaviorand only looking atwhat the otherperson did wrong. SAFEBEHAVIORAct soothers feelsafe & cansay “NO”. SHAREDPOWERMakedecisionstogether.Neither oneis in control.THREATSSaying you aregoing to dosomethingharmful toyourself orothersHONESTY &ACCOUNTABILITY Admitting itwhen youare wrong.Keepingpromises.ISOLATION Using jealousyto control whoyour friendhangs out with.SELFCONFIDENCE/ PERSONALGROWTHEncouragingyour friend tolikehimself/herself& be a betterperson.NEGOTIATION& FAIRNESS Workingtogether,compromise,agree todisagreesometimesDenial Refusing toacknowledge thetruth about whatyou've done wrongor what you arefeeling.IntellectualizationActing like arobot, likeyou don'thavefeelings.EMOTIONALABUSE Put downsandmanipulation.VIOLATESYOURPRIVACYTouching you/yourbelongings, and/orinvading yourspace withoutpermission.HUMILIATIONMakedecisionstogether.Neither oneis in control.Rationalization&JustificationMaking excusesfor yourselfinstead of takingresponsibility foryour behaviorOPENCOMMUNICATIONBeingassertiveand using “Istatements”HARASSMENTIntentionally& repeatedlyaggravatingsomeone.

Equality Wheel, Power & Control Wheel, & Defenses - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. Using social clout to influence someone to do something.
    PEER PRESSURE
  2. Staying too busy or distant, so you don't have to deal with the conflict.
    Avoidance
  3. Paying attention to, listening to others because they are important.
    RESPECT
  4. Being ok with friends having other friends. Encouraging your friends.
    TRUST & SUPPORT
  5. Using gestures/body language to make others afraid.
    INTIMIDATION
  6. thinking & acting like you deserve special treatment
    sense of entitlement
  7. Using physical force, instead of using words, to show how you feel.
    Acting Out
  8. Downplaying the significance of what you've done wrong.
    Minimization
  9. Refusing to look at your own behavior and only looking at what the other person did wrong.
    Blame
  10. Act so others feel safe & can say “NO”.
    SAFE BEHAVIOR
  11. Make decisions together. Neither one is in control.
    SHARED POWER
  12. Saying you are going to do something harmful to yourself or others
    THREATS
  13. Admitting it when you are wrong. Keeping promises.
    HONESTY & ACCOUNTABILITY
  14. Using jealousy to control who your friend hangs out with.
    ISOLATION
  15. Encouraging your friend to like himself/herself & be a better person.
    SELF CONFIDENCE / PERSONAL GROWTH
  16. Working together, compromise, agree to disagree sometimes
    NEGOTIATION & FAIRNESS
  17. Refusing to acknowledge the truth about what you've done wrong or what you are feeling.
    Denial
  18. Acting like a robot, like you don't have feelings.
    Intellectualization
  19. Put downs and manipulation.
    EMOTIONAL ABUSE
  20. Touching you/your belongings, and/or invading your space without permission.
    VIOLATES YOUR PRIVACY
  21. Make decisions together. Neither one is in control.
    HUMILIATION
  22. Making excuses for yourself instead of taking responsibility for your behavior
    Rationalization & Justification
  23. Being assertive and using “I statements”
    OPEN COMMUNICATION
  24. Intentionally & repeatedly aggravating someone.
    HARASSMENT