Is reactive to questioning or criticism Denies own anger Displays rage and contempt in private Has an exaggerated sense of entitlement Expects caretaking Avoids introspection and lacks self- awareness Focuses on appearance over substance Holds a grudge Focuses on unfairness Belittles and blames Makes unreasonable demands Plays on sympathies Cultivates a public image sharply different from his/her private behavior Uses guilt and shame to control and punish Avoids direct responsibility Is envious and vengeful Feels above the rules Feels special through association Is impressed by the overt narcissist’s appearance of confidence Is anxious and hypervigilant Withholds and stonewalls Swings between idealizing and devaluing him-/herself and others Identifies as a victim Crosses normative boundaries and codes of conduct Rushes to (false) intimacy Is passive- aggressive Lacks emotional empathy Resists decision- making Flatters and fawns to win favor Gaslights Is condescending and superior Has double standards Conducts smear campaigns Gossips Is cynical and sarcastic Is threatened by honesty and directness Displays false humility and humblebrags Prefers to remain behind the scenes Is prone to paranoia and conspiracy theories Does not sincerely apologize Criticizes and judges from the sidelines Exploits and/or attacks others’ vulnerability Fixates on others’ problems and misfortunes Needs reassurance Fakes or exaggerates illness/injury for attention Hates to lose Uses platitudes in place of genuine insight Denies and dismisses others’ feelings Turns your problems into his/her dramas Is inattentive or annoyed when others talk Is reactive to questioning or criticism Denies own anger Displays rage and contempt in private Has an exaggerated sense of entitlement Expects caretaking Avoids introspection and lacks self- awareness Focuses on appearance over substance Holds a grudge Focuses on unfairness Belittles and blames Makes unreasonable demands Plays on sympathies Cultivates a public image sharply different from his/her private behavior Uses guilt and shame to control and punish Avoids direct responsibility Is envious and vengeful Feels above the rules Feels special through association Is impressed by the overt narcissist’s appearance of confidence Is anxious and hypervigilant Withholds and stonewalls Swings between idealizing and devaluing him-/herself and others Identifies as a victim Crosses normative boundaries and codes of conduct Rushes to (false) intimacy Is passive- aggressive Lacks emotional empathy Resists decision- making Flatters and fawns to win favor Gaslights Is condescending and superior Has double standards Conducts smear campaigns Gossips Is cynical and sarcastic Is threatened by honesty and directness Displays false humility and humblebrags Prefers to remain behind the scenes Is prone to paranoia and conspiracy theories Does not sincerely apologize Criticizes and judges from the sidelines Exploits and/or attacks others’ vulnerability Fixates on others’ problems and misfortunes Needs reassurance Fakes or exaggerates illness/injury for attention Hates to lose Uses platitudes in place of genuine insight Denies and dismisses others’ feelings Turns your problems into his/her dramas Is inattentive or annoyed when others talk
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Is reactive to questioning or criticism
Denies own anger
Displays rage and contempt in private
Has an exaggerated sense of entitlement
Expects caretaking
Avoids introspection and lacks self-awareness
Focuses on appearance over substance
Holds a grudge
Focuses on unfairness
Belittles and blames
Makes unreasonable demands
Plays on sympathies
Cultivates a public image sharply different from his/her private behavior
Uses guilt and shame to control and punish
Avoids direct responsibility
Is envious and vengeful
Feels above the rules
Feels special through association
Is impressed by the overt narcissist’s appearance of confidence
Is anxious and hypervigilant
Withholds and stonewalls
Swings between idealizing and devaluing him-/herself and others
Identifies as a victim
Crosses normative boundaries and codes of conduct
Rushes to (false) intimacy
Is passive-aggressive
Lacks emotional empathy
Resists decision-making
Flatters and fawns to win favor
Gaslights
Is condescending and superior
Has double standards
Conducts smear campaigns
Gossips
Is cynical and sarcastic
Is threatened by honesty and directness
Displays false humility and humblebrags
Prefers to remain behind the scenes
Is prone to paranoia and conspiracy theories
Does not sincerely apologize
Criticizes and judges from the sidelines
Exploits and/or attacks others’ vulnerability
Fixates on others’ problems and misfortunes
Needs reassurance
Fakes or exaggerates illness/injury for attention
Hates to lose
Uses platitudes in place of genuine insight
Denies and dismisses others’ feelings
Turns your problems into his/her dramas
Is inattentive or annoyed when others talk
