Does your partnerput limited effort intoattending importantevents orparticipating in yourlife? Would you likemore?Does your partnerask you to work onproblems butunresponsive whenyou ask them to dothe same?Has your partnercoerced you orother partners tohave abortionsor children?Does your partnerexpect you to domost of the workaround birth control,abortion or STIprevention?Do you think ofyourself as lesscompetent, confident,sane or patient sincegetting together withyour partner?Has your partner toldyou that one of theirother partners is"controlling", "needy","jealous", or"threatened"?Do you feel likeyou're on a rollercoaster withhighs very highand lows verylow?Do you sometimeswant to talk to yourpartner's otherpartners simplybecause what yourpartner is telling youisn't adding up?Do you feel bad,guilty, frustrated ordepressed aboutyour relationshipeven when nothing"bad" is happening?Has your partnerdiscouraged you fromspeaking to otherpartners OR are youasked to talk toothers about issuesyour partner shouldhandle?Does your partnerprocess sensitivethings with youthat they shouldprocess withsomeone else?Do you spend moretime with a partnerwho can't meet yourneeds than youspend looking for apartner who would?Do you feellike you haveto apologizeall the time?When you bringissues to yourpartner do theydeflect or receivefeedback poorlyinstead of work withyou?Has your partnertold you negativethings their otherpartners have saidabout you?When you ask toclarify expectationsor agreements, doesyour partner respondpassively or pretendthey have no control?Do you dodisproportionatework to make therelationshipfunction? Does itmostly rely on youreffort?Has your partnerbeen hurtful andthen called you"defensive","jealous","insecure","needy"?Does your partnerhave poorboundaries (do youknow things aboutother partners thatyou shouldn't)?Do your friends*outside of yourpartner's friendgroup* think youcan do better?Are youexceptionallychallenged byrough feelingsabout one of yourpartner's otherpartners?Do you accept poortreatment orabsence from yourpartner that youwouldn't acceptfrom friends orfamily?Did your partnerescalate therelationship veryquickly or set upexpectations in anunsustainable way?Has your partnertold you "you're theonly person whodoes this for me"?Would other peoplein their life find thishurtful?Did your partnerprovide you morecare, affection andtime in the beginningthan they do now?Would you like more?Does your partneravoid admitting tomistakes theyhave made incurrent or pastrelationships?Has your partnertreated otherpartners in a waythat you would findunacceptable if theytreated you thatway?Has your partnerever said somethinglike "you know whatyou signed up for"when you bring upyour needs?Do you find yourselfblaming other peoplefor the choices yourpartner makes? (I.e.other partners, boss,family.)Do you feel that youare in anenvironment ofscarcity orcompetition? Are youtold you're asking fortoo much?Does your partnerask to use yourphone, emailaddress or bankinformation fortheir ownpurposes?Is something isgetting in the wayof you gettingphysical needsmet (food, meds,sleep)?Is your partnerdisinterested inmeeting yourfriends orfamily? Wouldyou like more?Does your partnersay things thatdon't seemhonest? Wouldother partners callthem dishonest?Does your partnerput limited effort intoattending importantevents orparticipating in yourlife? Would you likemore?Does your partnerask you to work onproblems butunresponsive whenyou ask them to dothe same?Has your partnercoerced you orother partners tohave abortionsor children?Does your partnerexpect you to domost of the workaround birth control,abortion or STIprevention?Do you think ofyourself as lesscompetent, confident,sane or patient sincegetting together withyour partner?Has your partner toldyou that one of theirother partners is"controlling", "needy","jealous", or"threatened"?Do you feel likeyou're on a rollercoaster withhighs very highand lows verylow?Do you sometimeswant to talk to yourpartner's otherpartners simplybecause what yourpartner is telling youisn't adding up?Do you feel bad,guilty, frustrated ordepressed aboutyour relationshipeven when nothing"bad" is happening?Has your partnerdiscouraged you fromspeaking to otherpartners OR are youasked to talk toothers about issuesyour partner shouldhandle?Does your partnerprocess sensitivethings with youthat they shouldprocess withsomeone else?Do you spend moretime with a partnerwho can't meet yourneeds than youspend looking for apartner who would?Do you feellike you haveto apologizeall the time?When you bringissues to yourpartner do theydeflect or receivefeedback poorlyinstead of work withyou?Has your partnertold you negativethings their otherpartners have saidabout you?When you ask toclarify expectationsor agreements, doesyour partner respondpassively or pretendthey have no control?Do you dodisproportionatework to make therelationshipfunction? Does itmostly rely on youreffort?Has your partnerbeen hurtful andthen called you"defensive","jealous","insecure","needy"?Does your partnerhave poorboundaries (do youknow things aboutother partners thatyou shouldn't)?Do your friends*outside of yourpartner's friendgroup* think youcan do better?Are youexceptionallychallenged byrough feelingsabout one of yourpartner's otherpartners?Do you accept poortreatment orabsence from yourpartner that youwouldn't acceptfrom friends orfamily?Did your partnerescalate therelationship veryquickly or set upexpectations in anunsustainable way?Has your partnertold you "you're theonly person whodoes this for me"?Would other peoplein their life find thishurtful?Did your partnerprovide you morecare, affection andtime in the beginningthan they do now?Would you like more?Does your partneravoid admitting tomistakes theyhave made incurrent or pastrelationships?Has your partnertreated otherpartners in a waythat you would findunacceptable if theytreated you thatway?Has your partnerever said somethinglike "you know whatyou signed up for"when you bring upyour needs?Do you find yourselfblaming other peoplefor the choices yourpartner makes? (I.e.other partners, boss,family.)Do you feel that youare in anenvironment ofscarcity orcompetition? Are youtold you're asking fortoo much?Does your partnerask to use yourphone, emailaddress or bankinformation fortheir ownpurposes?Is something isgetting in the wayof you gettingphysical needsmet (food, meds,sleep)?Is your partnerdisinterested inmeeting yourfriends orfamily? Wouldyou like more?Does your partnersay things thatdon't seemhonest? Wouldother partners callthem dishonest?

Untitled Bingo - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. Does your partner put limited effort into attending important events or participating in your life? Would you like more?
  2. Does your partner ask you to work on problems but unresponsive when you ask them to do the same?
  3. Has your partner coerced you or other partners to have abortions or children?
  4. Does your partner expect you to do most of the work around birth control, abortion or STI prevention?
  5. Do you think of yourself as less competent, confident, sane or patient since getting together with your partner?
  6. Has your partner told you that one of their other partners is "controlling", "needy", "jealous", or "threatened"?
  7. Do you feel like you're on a roller coaster with highs very high and lows very low?
  8. Do you sometimes want to talk to your partner's other partners simply because what your partner is telling you isn't adding up?
  9. Do you feel bad, guilty, frustrated or depressed about your relationship even when nothing "bad" is happening?
  10. Has your partner discouraged you from speaking to other partners OR are you asked to talk to others about issues your partner should handle?
  11. Does your partner process sensitive things with you that they should process with someone else?
  12. Do you spend more time with a partner who can't meet your needs than you spend looking for a partner who would?
  13. Do you feel like you have to apologize all the time?
  14. When you bring issues to your partner do they deflect or receive feedback poorly instead of work with you?
  15. Has your partner told you negative things their other partners have said about you?
  16. When you ask to clarify expectations or agreements, does your partner respond passively or pretend they have no control?
  17. Do you do disproportionate work to make the relationship function? Does it mostly rely on your effort?
  18. Has your partner been hurtful and then called you "defensive", "jealous", "insecure", "needy"?
  19. Does your partner have poor boundaries (do you know things about other partners that you shouldn't)?
  20. Do your friends *outside of your partner's friend group* think you can do better?
  21. Are you exceptionally challenged by rough feelings about one of your partner's other partners?
  22. Do you accept poor treatment or absence from your partner that you wouldn't accept from friends or family?
  23. Did your partner escalate the relationship very quickly or set up expectations in an unsustainable way?
  24. Has your partner told you "you're the only person who does this for me"? Would other people in their life find this hurtful?
  25. Did your partner provide you more care, affection and time in the beginning than they do now? Would you like more?
  26. Does your partner avoid admitting to mistakes they have made in current or past relationships?
  27. Has your partner treated other partners in a way that you would find unacceptable if they treated you that way?
  28. Has your partner ever said something like "you know what you signed up for" when you bring up your needs?
  29. Do you find yourself blaming other people for the choices your partner makes? (I.e. other partners, boss, family.)
  30. Do you feel that you are in an environment of scarcity or competition? Are you told you're asking for too much?
  31. Does your partner ask to use your phone, email address or bank information for their own purposes?
  32. Is something is getting in the way of you getting physical needs met (food, meds, sleep)?
  33. Is your partner disinterested in meeting your friends or family? Would you like more?
  34. Does your partner say things that don't seem honest? Would other partners call them dishonest?