Do you spend moretime with a partnerwho can't meet yourneeds than youspend looking for apartner who would?Do you feellike you haveto apologizeall the time?Has your partnertreated otherpartners in a waythat you would findunacceptable if theytreated you thatway?Do you accept poortreatment orabsence from yourpartner that youwouldn't acceptfrom friends orfamily?Does your partnerexpect you to domost of the workaround birth control,abortion or STIprevention?Has your partnerbeen hurtful andthen called you"defensive","jealous","insecure","needy"?Does your partnerput limited effort intoattending importantevents orparticipating in yourlife? Would you likemore?Has your partnerdiscouraged you fromspeaking to otherpartners OR are youasked to talk toothers about issuesyour partner shouldhandle?Has your partner toldyou that one of theirother partners is"controlling", "needy","jealous", or"threatened"?Do you feel bad,guilty, frustrated ordepressed aboutyour relationshipeven when nothing"bad" is happening?Do you feel that youare in anenvironment ofscarcity orcompetition? Are youtold you're asking fortoo much?Does your partnerprocess sensitivethings with youthat they shouldprocess withsomeone else?Does your partneravoid admitting tomistakes theyhave made incurrent or pastrelationships?Do you think ofyourself as lesscompetent, confident,sane or patient sincegetting together withyour partner?Do your friends*outside of yourpartner's friendgroup* think youcan do better?Is something isgetting in the wayof you gettingphysical needsmet (food, meds,sleep)?Has your partnerever said somethinglike "you know whatyou signed up for"when you bring upyour needs?Has your partnertold you "you're theonly person whodoes this for me"?Would other peoplein their life find thishurtful?Did your partnerprovide you morecare, affection andtime in the beginningthan they do now?Would you like more?Do you find yourselfblaming other peoplefor the choices yourpartner makes? (I.e.other partners, boss,family.)Does your partnerhave poorboundaries (do youknow things aboutother partners thatyou shouldn't)?Do you sometimeswant to talk to yourpartner's otherpartners simplybecause what yourpartner is telling youisn't adding up?Is your partnerdisinterested inmeeting yourfriends orfamily? Wouldyou like more?Does your partnerask you to work onproblems butunresponsive whenyou ask them to dothe same?Do you dodisproportionatework to make therelationshipfunction? Does itmostly rely on youreffort?Does your partnerask to use yourphone, emailaddress or bankinformation fortheir ownpurposes?When you bringissues to yourpartner do theydeflect or receivefeedback poorlyinstead of work withyou?Are youexceptionallychallenged byrough feelingsabout one of yourpartner's otherpartners?Has your partnertold you negativethings their otherpartners have saidabout you?When you ask toclarify expectationsor agreements, doesyour partner respondpassively or pretendthey have no control?Did your partnerescalate therelationship veryquickly or set upexpectations in anunsustainable way?Has your partnercoerced you orother partners tohave abortionsor children?Does your partnersay things thatdon't seemhonest? Wouldother partners callthem dishonest?Do you feel likeyou're on a rollercoaster withhighs very highand lows verylow?Do you spend moretime with a partnerwho can't meet yourneeds than youspend looking for apartner who would?Do you feellike you haveto apologizeall the time?Has your partnertreated otherpartners in a waythat you would findunacceptable if theytreated you thatway?Do you accept poortreatment orabsence from yourpartner that youwouldn't acceptfrom friends orfamily?Does your partnerexpect you to domost of the workaround birth control,abortion or STIprevention?Has your partnerbeen hurtful andthen called you"defensive","jealous","insecure","needy"?Does your partnerput limited effort intoattending importantevents orparticipating in yourlife? Would you likemore?Has your partnerdiscouraged you fromspeaking to otherpartners OR are youasked to talk toothers about issuesyour partner shouldhandle?Has your partner toldyou that one of theirother partners is"controlling", "needy","jealous", or"threatened"?Do you feel bad,guilty, frustrated ordepressed aboutyour relationshipeven when nothing"bad" is happening?Do you feel that youare in anenvironment ofscarcity orcompetition? Are youtold you're asking fortoo much?Does your partnerprocess sensitivethings with youthat they shouldprocess withsomeone else?Does your partneravoid admitting tomistakes theyhave made incurrent or pastrelationships?Do you think ofyourself as lesscompetent, confident,sane or patient sincegetting together withyour partner?Do your friends*outside of yourpartner's friendgroup* think youcan do better?Is something isgetting in the wayof you gettingphysical needsmet (food, meds,sleep)?Has your partnerever said somethinglike "you know whatyou signed up for"when you bring upyour needs?Has your partnertold you "you're theonly person whodoes this for me"?Would other peoplein their life find thishurtful?Did your partnerprovide you morecare, affection andtime in the beginningthan they do now?Would you like more?Do you find yourselfblaming other peoplefor the choices yourpartner makes? (I.e.other partners, boss,family.)Does your partnerhave poorboundaries (do youknow things aboutother partners thatyou shouldn't)?Do you sometimeswant to talk to yourpartner's otherpartners simplybecause what yourpartner is telling youisn't adding up?Is your partnerdisinterested inmeeting yourfriends orfamily? Wouldyou like more?Does your partnerask you to work onproblems butunresponsive whenyou ask them to dothe same?Do you dodisproportionatework to make therelationshipfunction? Does itmostly rely on youreffort?Does your partnerask to use yourphone, emailaddress or bankinformation fortheir ownpurposes?When you bringissues to yourpartner do theydeflect or receivefeedback poorlyinstead of work withyou?Are youexceptionallychallenged byrough feelingsabout one of yourpartner's otherpartners?Has your partnertold you negativethings their otherpartners have saidabout you?When you ask toclarify expectationsor agreements, doesyour partner respondpassively or pretendthey have no control?Did your partnerescalate therelationship veryquickly or set upexpectations in anunsustainable way?Has your partnercoerced you orother partners tohave abortionsor children?Does your partnersay things thatdon't seemhonest? Wouldother partners callthem dishonest?Do you feel likeyou're on a rollercoaster withhighs very highand lows verylow?

Untitled Bingo - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. Do you spend more time with a partner who can't meet your needs than you spend looking for a partner who would?
  2. Do you feel like you have to apologize all the time?
  3. Has your partner treated other partners in a way that you would find unacceptable if they treated you that way?
  4. Do you accept poor treatment or absence from your partner that you wouldn't accept from friends or family?
  5. Does your partner expect you to do most of the work around birth control, abortion or STI prevention?
  6. Has your partner been hurtful and then called you "defensive", "jealous", "insecure", "needy"?
  7. Does your partner put limited effort into attending important events or participating in your life? Would you like more?
  8. Has your partner discouraged you from speaking to other partners OR are you asked to talk to others about issues your partner should handle?
  9. Has your partner told you that one of their other partners is "controlling", "needy", "jealous", or "threatened"?
  10. Do you feel bad, guilty, frustrated or depressed about your relationship even when nothing "bad" is happening?
  11. Do you feel that you are in an environment of scarcity or competition? Are you told you're asking for too much?
  12. Does your partner process sensitive things with you that they should process with someone else?
  13. Does your partner avoid admitting to mistakes they have made in current or past relationships?
  14. Do you think of yourself as less competent, confident, sane or patient since getting together with your partner?
  15. Do your friends *outside of your partner's friend group* think you can do better?
  16. Is something is getting in the way of you getting physical needs met (food, meds, sleep)?
  17. Has your partner ever said something like "you know what you signed up for" when you bring up your needs?
  18. Has your partner told you "you're the only person who does this for me"? Would other people in their life find this hurtful?
  19. Did your partner provide you more care, affection and time in the beginning than they do now? Would you like more?
  20. Do you find yourself blaming other people for the choices your partner makes? (I.e. other partners, boss, family.)
  21. Does your partner have poor boundaries (do you know things about other partners that you shouldn't)?
  22. Do you sometimes want to talk to your partner's other partners simply because what your partner is telling you isn't adding up?
  23. Is your partner disinterested in meeting your friends or family? Would you like more?
  24. Does your partner ask you to work on problems but unresponsive when you ask them to do the same?
  25. Do you do disproportionate work to make the relationship function? Does it mostly rely on your effort?
  26. Does your partner ask to use your phone, email address or bank information for their own purposes?
  27. When you bring issues to your partner do they deflect or receive feedback poorly instead of work with you?
  28. Are you exceptionally challenged by rough feelings about one of your partner's other partners?
  29. Has your partner told you negative things their other partners have said about you?
  30. When you ask to clarify expectations or agreements, does your partner respond passively or pretend they have no control?
  31. Did your partner escalate the relationship very quickly or set up expectations in an unsustainable way?
  32. Has your partner coerced you or other partners to have abortions or children?
  33. Does your partner say things that don't seem honest? Would other partners call them dishonest?
  34. Do you feel like you're on a roller coaster with highs very high and lows very low?