Saysthe r-slurMocks mycharacteror actionsBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."Mentionsthat IembarrasshimSays somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."BecomesphysicallyabusiveWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."Goesoff on atangentSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."When I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."When I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentShoosmeawayBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomAfter beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Doesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictTries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meSayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Berates mefor longerthan 30minutesAfter I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Mentions thathe finds medisappointingWhen I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]Saysthe r-slurMocks mycharacteror actionsBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."Mentionsthat IembarrasshimSays somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."BecomesphysicallyabusiveWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."Goesoff on atangentSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."When I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."When I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentShoosmeawayBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomAfter beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Doesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictTries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meSayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Berates mefor longerthan 30minutesAfter I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Mentions thathe finds medisappointingWhen I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]

Verbal Assault with Dad - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. Says the r-slur
  2. Mocks my character or actions
  3. Brings up my mistakes or "wrongdoings" from weeks, months, or even years ago
  4. Says something like, "I've been holding this criticism for a while, and now I think it's time for me to share it."
  5. Mentions that I embarrass him
  6. Says something like, "When you're older, you're going to ask me for a place to live, and I'll turn a deaf ear."
  7. Becomes physically abusive
  8. When I make a mistake, he condescendingly provides unconstructive criticism like "Why didn't you do it differently? You could've handled that better."
  9. Goes off on a tangent
  10. Says something like, "You never try [(hard enough)]."
  11. When I mention a time he has abused me, he either says "sorry" sarcastically or says something like "I don't believe you."
  12. When I try to address an issue, he completely misses the point of my argument
  13. During a heated conversation, he tries to gain the upper hand by spotlighting minor details in my speech rather than addressing the main points of my argument
  14. Shoos me away
  15. Berates me for a while, goes away, then comes back to scold me again
  16. Says something insulting about my mom
  17. After being reproved or critiqued, he asks, "What are you going to do about it?"
  18. Doesn't admit responsibility for his actions, blames everyone but himself, or fails to recognize that he could be the source-of-conflict
  19. Tries to appeal to my sympathetic side by guilt-tripping me
  20. Says something like "You're just saying that to satisfy me."
  21. Berates me for longer than 30 minutes
  22. After I finish speaking, he responds with, "That's all?" (to undermine the value of what I've said)
  23. Mentions that he finds me disappointing
  24. When I mention his abusive behavior, he diminishes my experience by drawing comparisons to those who suffer more [extensively from abuse]