Says somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."When I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]Sayssomethinginsultingabout mymomWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Goesoff on atangentWhen I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentMentions thathe finds medisappointingShoosmeawayTries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meBerates mefor longerthan 30minutesSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."During a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentSaysthe r-slurSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."Sayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Doesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictAfter beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Mocks mycharacteror actionsMentionsthat IembarrasshimWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."After I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Brings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoBecomesphysicallyabusiveBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againSays somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."When I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]Sayssomethinginsultingabout mymomWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Goesoff on atangentWhen I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentMentions thathe finds medisappointingShoosmeawayTries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meBerates mefor longerthan 30minutesSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."During a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentSaysthe r-slurSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."Sayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Doesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictAfter beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Mocks mycharacteror actionsMentionsthat IembarrasshimWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."After I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Brings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoBecomesphysicallyabusiveBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me again

Verbal Assault with Dad - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. Says something like, "When you're older, you're going to ask me for a place to live, and I'll turn a deaf ear."
  2. When I mention his abusive behavior, he diminishes my experience by drawing comparisons to those who suffer more [extensively from abuse]
  3. Says something insulting about my mom
  4. When I mention a time he has abused me, he either says "sorry" sarcastically or says something like "I don't believe you."
  5. Goes off on a tangent
  6. When I try to address an issue, he completely misses the point of my argument
  7. Mentions that he finds me disappointing
  8. Shoos me away
  9. Tries to appeal to my sympathetic side by guilt-tripping me
  10. Berates me for longer than 30 minutes
  11. Says something like, "You never try [(hard enough)]."
  12. During a heated conversation, he tries to gain the upper hand by spotlighting minor details in my speech rather than addressing the main points of my argument
  13. Says the r-slur
  14. Says something like, "I've been holding this criticism for a while, and now I think it's time for me to share it."
  15. Says something like "You're just saying that to satisfy me."
  16. Doesn't admit responsibility for his actions, blames everyone but himself, or fails to recognize that he could be the source-of-conflict
  17. After being reproved or critiqued, he asks, "What are you going to do about it?"
  18. Mocks my character or actions
  19. Mentions that I embarrass him
  20. When I make a mistake, he condescendingly provides unconstructive criticism like "Why didn't you do it differently? You could've handled that better."
  21. After I finish speaking, he responds with, "That's all?" (to undermine the value of what I've said)
  22. Brings up my mistakes or "wrongdoings" from weeks, months, or even years ago
  23. Becomes physically abusive
  24. Berates me for a while, goes away, then comes back to scold me again