When I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]After I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Says somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."Mentionsthat IembarrasshimWhen I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentMentions thathe finds medisappointingShoosmeawayMocks mycharacteror actionsSayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Tries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meBerates mefor longerthan 30minutesSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."Brings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoBecomesphysicallyabusiveSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomDoesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictAfter beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"When I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."Berates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againGoesoff on atangentSaysthe r-slurDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Sayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."When I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]After I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Says somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."Mentionsthat IembarrasshimWhen I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentMentions thathe finds medisappointingShoosmeawayMocks mycharacteror actionsSayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Tries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meBerates mefor longerthan 30minutesSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."Brings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoBecomesphysicallyabusiveSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomDoesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictAfter beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"When I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."Berates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againGoesoff on atangentSaysthe r-slurDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Sayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."

Verbal Assault with Dad - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. When I mention his abusive behavior, he diminishes my experience by drawing comparisons to those who suffer more [extensively from abuse]
  2. After I finish speaking, he responds with, "That's all?" (to undermine the value of what I've said)
  3. Says something like, "When you're older, you're going to ask me for a place to live, and I'll turn a deaf ear."
  4. Mentions that I embarrass him
  5. When I try to address an issue, he completely misses the point of my argument
  6. Mentions that he finds me disappointing
  7. Shoos me away
  8. Mocks my character or actions
  9. Says something like "You're just saying that to satisfy me."
  10. Tries to appeal to my sympathetic side by guilt-tripping me
  11. Berates me for longer than 30 minutes
  12. Says something like, "I've been holding this criticism for a while, and now I think it's time for me to share it."
  13. Brings up my mistakes or "wrongdoings" from weeks, months, or even years ago
  14. Becomes physically abusive
  15. Says something insulting about my mom
  16. Doesn't admit responsibility for his actions, blames everyone but himself, or fails to recognize that he could be the source-of-conflict
  17. After being reproved or critiqued, he asks, "What are you going to do about it?"
  18. When I make a mistake, he condescendingly provides unconstructive criticism like "Why didn't you do it differently? You could've handled that better."
  19. Berates me for a while, goes away, then comes back to scold me again
  20. Goes off on a tangent
  21. Says the r-slur
  22. During a heated conversation, he tries to gain the upper hand by spotlighting minor details in my speech rather than addressing the main points of my argument
  23. When I mention a time he has abused me, he either says "sorry" sarcastically or says something like "I don't believe you."
  24. Says something like, "You never try [(hard enough)]."