After I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Saysthe r-slurSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."Doesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."Says somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."After beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"BecomesphysicallyabusiveBerates mefor longerthan 30minutesBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."When I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."When I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]When I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentMentionsthat IembarrasshimMocks mycharacteror actionsSayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Goesoff on atangentDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentShoosmeawayTries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meMentions thathe finds medisappointingAfter I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Saysthe r-slurSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."Doesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."Says somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."After beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"BecomesphysicallyabusiveBerates mefor longerthan 30minutesBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."When I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."When I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]When I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentMentionsthat IembarrasshimMocks mycharacteror actionsSayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Goesoff on atangentDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentShoosmeawayTries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meMentions thathe finds medisappointing

Verbal Assault with Dad - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. After I finish speaking, he responds with, "That's all?" (to undermine the value of what I've said)
  2. Says the r-slur
  3. Says something insulting about my mom
  4. Says something like, "You never try [(hard enough)]."
  5. Doesn't admit responsibility for his actions, blames everyone but himself, or fails to recognize that he could be the source-of-conflict
  6. Says something like, "I've been holding this criticism for a while, and now I think it's time for me to share it."
  7. Says something like, "When you're older, you're going to ask me for a place to live, and I'll turn a deaf ear."
  8. After being reproved or critiqued, he asks, "What are you going to do about it?"
  9. Becomes physically abusive
  10. Berates me for longer than 30 minutes
  11. Brings up my mistakes or "wrongdoings" from weeks, months, or even years ago
  12. Berates me for a while, goes away, then comes back to scold me again
  13. When I mention a time he has abused me, he either says "sorry" sarcastically or says something like "I don't believe you."
  14. When I make a mistake, he condescendingly provides unconstructive criticism like "Why didn't you do it differently? You could've handled that better."
  15. When I mention his abusive behavior, he diminishes my experience by drawing comparisons to those who suffer more [extensively from abuse]
  16. When I try to address an issue, he completely misses the point of my argument
  17. Mentions that I embarrass him
  18. Mocks my character or actions
  19. Says something like "You're just saying that to satisfy me."
  20. Goes off on a tangent
  21. During a heated conversation, he tries to gain the upper hand by spotlighting minor details in my speech rather than addressing the main points of my argument
  22. Shoos me away
  23. Tries to appeal to my sympathetic side by guilt-tripping me
  24. Mentions that he finds me disappointing