Brings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoSays somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."When I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Doesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."When I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentBecomesphysicallyabusiveSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."When I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]Tries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."After beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Mentionsthat IembarrasshimBerates mefor longerthan 30minutesGoesoff on atangentSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentShoosmeawaySayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Saysthe r-slurAfter I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Mentions thathe finds medisappointingMocks mycharacteror actionsBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoSays somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."When I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Doesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."When I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentBecomesphysicallyabusiveSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."When I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]Tries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."After beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Mentionsthat IembarrasshimBerates mefor longerthan 30minutesGoesoff on atangentSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentShoosmeawaySayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Saysthe r-slurAfter I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Mentions thathe finds medisappointingMocks mycharacteror actions

Verbal Assault with Dad - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. Brings up my mistakes or "wrongdoings" from weeks, months, or even years ago
  2. Says something like, "When you're older, you're going to ask me for a place to live, and I'll turn a deaf ear."
  3. When I mention a time he has abused me, he either says "sorry" sarcastically or says something like "I don't believe you."
  4. Doesn't admit responsibility for his actions, blames everyone but himself, or fails to recognize that he could be the source-of-conflict
  5. Says something like, "You never try [(hard enough)]."
  6. When I try to address an issue, he completely misses the point of my argument
  7. Becomes physically abusive
  8. Says something like, "I've been holding this criticism for a while, and now I think it's time for me to share it."
  9. When I mention his abusive behavior, he diminishes my experience by drawing comparisons to those who suffer more [extensively from abuse]
  10. Tries to appeal to my sympathetic side by guilt-tripping me
  11. Berates me for a while, goes away, then comes back to scold me again
  12. When I make a mistake, he condescendingly provides unconstructive criticism like "Why didn't you do it differently? You could've handled that better."
  13. After being reproved or critiqued, he asks, "What are you going to do about it?"
  14. Mentions that I embarrass him
  15. Berates me for longer than 30 minutes
  16. Goes off on a tangent
  17. Says something insulting about my mom
  18. During a heated conversation, he tries to gain the upper hand by spotlighting minor details in my speech rather than addressing the main points of my argument
  19. Shoos me away
  20. Says something like "You're just saying that to satisfy me."
  21. Says the r-slur
  22. After I finish speaking, he responds with, "That's all?" (to undermine the value of what I've said)
  23. Mentions that he finds me disappointing
  24. Mocks my character or actions