When I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Saysthe r-slurBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."Sayssomethinginsultingabout mymomGoesoff on atangentDoesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictSays somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."Berates mefor longerthan 30minutesDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."Says somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."Tries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meMentionsthat IembarrasshimShoosmeawayAfter I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Mentions thathe finds medisappointingAfter beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Sayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."BecomesphysicallyabusiveBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoWhen I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]When I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentMocks mycharacteror actionsWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Saysthe r-slurBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."Sayssomethinginsultingabout mymomGoesoff on atangentDoesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictSays somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."Berates mefor longerthan 30minutesDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."Says somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."Tries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meMentionsthat IembarrasshimShoosmeawayAfter I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Mentions thathe finds medisappointingAfter beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Sayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."BecomesphysicallyabusiveBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoWhen I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]When I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentMocks mycharacteror actions

Verbal Assault with Dad - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. When I mention a time he has abused me, he either says "sorry" sarcastically or says something like "I don't believe you."
  2. Says the r-slur
  3. Berates me for a while, goes away, then comes back to scold me again
  4. Says something like, "You never try [(hard enough)]."
  5. Says something insulting about my mom
  6. Goes off on a tangent
  7. Doesn't admit responsibility for his actions, blames everyone but himself, or fails to recognize that he could be the source-of-conflict
  8. Says something like, "When you're older, you're going to ask me for a place to live, and I'll turn a deaf ear."
  9. Berates me for longer than 30 minutes
  10. During a heated conversation, he tries to gain the upper hand by spotlighting minor details in my speech rather than addressing the main points of my argument
  11. When I make a mistake, he condescendingly provides unconstructive criticism like "Why didn't you do it differently? You could've handled that better."
  12. Says something like, "I've been holding this criticism for a while, and now I think it's time for me to share it."
  13. Tries to appeal to my sympathetic side by guilt-tripping me
  14. Mentions that I embarrass him
  15. Shoos me away
  16. After I finish speaking, he responds with, "That's all?" (to undermine the value of what I've said)
  17. Mentions that he finds me disappointing
  18. After being reproved or critiqued, he asks, "What are you going to do about it?"
  19. Says something like "You're just saying that to satisfy me."
  20. Becomes physically abusive
  21. Brings up my mistakes or "wrongdoings" from weeks, months, or even years ago
  22. When I mention his abusive behavior, he diminishes my experience by drawing comparisons to those who suffer more [extensively from abuse]
  23. When I try to address an issue, he completely misses the point of my argument
  24. Mocks my character or actions