When I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]Berates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againWhen I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."BecomesphysicallyabusiveDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentMentionsthat IembarrasshimSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomBerates mefor longerthan 30minutesSays somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."Sayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Tries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meGoesoff on atangentWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."Brings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoShoosmeawayMocks mycharacteror actionsMentions thathe finds medisappointingSaysthe r-slurSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."After I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Doesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."After beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"When I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]Berates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againWhen I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."BecomesphysicallyabusiveDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentMentionsthat IembarrasshimSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomBerates mefor longerthan 30minutesSays somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."Sayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Tries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meGoesoff on atangentWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."Brings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoShoosmeawayMocks mycharacteror actionsMentions thathe finds medisappointingSaysthe r-slurSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."After I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Doesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."After beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"

Verbal Assault with Dad - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. When I mention his abusive behavior, he diminishes my experience by drawing comparisons to those who suffer more [extensively from abuse]
  2. Berates me for a while, goes away, then comes back to scold me again
  3. When I try to address an issue, he completely misses the point of my argument
  4. When I mention a time he has abused me, he either says "sorry" sarcastically or says something like "I don't believe you."
  5. Becomes physically abusive
  6. During a heated conversation, he tries to gain the upper hand by spotlighting minor details in my speech rather than addressing the main points of my argument
  7. Mentions that I embarrass him
  8. Says something insulting about my mom
  9. Berates me for longer than 30 minutes
  10. Says something like, "When you're older, you're going to ask me for a place to live, and I'll turn a deaf ear."
  11. Says something like "You're just saying that to satisfy me."
  12. Tries to appeal to my sympathetic side by guilt-tripping me
  13. Goes off on a tangent
  14. When I make a mistake, he condescendingly provides unconstructive criticism like "Why didn't you do it differently? You could've handled that better."
  15. Brings up my mistakes or "wrongdoings" from weeks, months, or even years ago
  16. Shoos me away
  17. Mocks my character or actions
  18. Mentions that he finds me disappointing
  19. Says the r-slur
  20. Says something like, "You never try [(hard enough)]."
  21. After I finish speaking, he responds with, "That's all?" (to undermine the value of what I've said)
  22. Doesn't admit responsibility for his actions, blames everyone but himself, or fails to recognize that he could be the source-of-conflict
  23. Says something like, "I've been holding this criticism for a while, and now I think it's time for me to share it."
  24. After being reproved or critiqued, he asks, "What are you going to do about it?"