During a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."After I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Sayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."Sayssomethinginsultingabout mymomShoosmeawayMentionsthat IembarrasshimAfter beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Berates mefor longerthan 30minutesSayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."BecomesphysicallyabusiveWhen I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentTries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meMentions thathe finds medisappointingSaysthe r-slurMocks mycharacteror actionsWhen I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]When I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."When I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Brings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoSays somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."Goesoff on atangentDoesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."After I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Sayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."Sayssomethinginsultingabout mymomShoosmeawayMentionsthat IembarrasshimAfter beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Berates mefor longerthan 30minutesSayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."BecomesphysicallyabusiveWhen I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentTries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meMentions thathe finds medisappointingSaysthe r-slurMocks mycharacteror actionsWhen I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]When I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."When I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Brings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoSays somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."Goesoff on atangentDoesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflict

Verbal Assault with Dad - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. During a heated conversation, he tries to gain the upper hand by spotlighting minor details in my speech rather than addressing the main points of my argument
  2. Berates me for a while, goes away, then comes back to scold me again
  3. Says something like, "I've been holding this criticism for a while, and now I think it's time for me to share it."
  4. After I finish speaking, he responds with, "That's all?" (to undermine the value of what I've said)
  5. Says something like, "You never try [(hard enough)]."
  6. Says something insulting about my mom
  7. Shoos me away
  8. Mentions that I embarrass him
  9. After being reproved or critiqued, he asks, "What are you going to do about it?"
  10. Berates me for longer than 30 minutes
  11. Says something like "You're just saying that to satisfy me."
  12. Becomes physically abusive
  13. When I try to address an issue, he completely misses the point of my argument
  14. Tries to appeal to my sympathetic side by guilt-tripping me
  15. Mentions that he finds me disappointing
  16. Says the r-slur
  17. Mocks my character or actions
  18. When I mention his abusive behavior, he diminishes my experience by drawing comparisons to those who suffer more [extensively from abuse]
  19. When I make a mistake, he condescendingly provides unconstructive criticism like "Why didn't you do it differently? You could've handled that better."
  20. When I mention a time he has abused me, he either says "sorry" sarcastically or says something like "I don't believe you."
  21. Brings up my mistakes or "wrongdoings" from weeks, months, or even years ago
  22. Says something like, "When you're older, you're going to ask me for a place to live, and I'll turn a deaf ear."
  23. Goes off on a tangent
  24. Doesn't admit responsibility for his actions, blames everyone but himself, or fails to recognize that he could be the source-of-conflict