Doesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictTries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meMentionsthat IembarrasshimMocks mycharacteror actionsGoesoff on atangentSaysthe r-slurAfter I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Says somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."Berates mefor longerthan 30minutesDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentMentions thathe finds medisappointingSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."When I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."When I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]Sayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Says somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."After beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"When I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."BecomesphysicallyabusiveBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againShoosmeawayDoesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictTries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meMentionsthat IembarrasshimMocks mycharacteror actionsGoesoff on atangentSaysthe r-slurAfter I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Says somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."Berates mefor longerthan 30minutesDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentMentions thathe finds medisappointingSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."When I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."When I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]Sayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Says somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."After beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"When I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."BecomesphysicallyabusiveBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againShoosmeaway

Verbal Assault with Dad - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. Doesn't admit responsibility for his actions, blames everyone but himself, or fails to recognize that he could be the source-of-conflict
  2. Tries to appeal to my sympathetic side by guilt-tripping me
  3. Mentions that I embarrass him
  4. Mocks my character or actions
  5. Goes off on a tangent
  6. Says the r-slur
  7. After I finish speaking, he responds with, "That's all?" (to undermine the value of what I've said)
  8. Says something like, "I've been holding this criticism for a while, and now I think it's time for me to share it."
  9. Berates me for longer than 30 minutes
  10. During a heated conversation, he tries to gain the upper hand by spotlighting minor details in my speech rather than addressing the main points of my argument
  11. Mentions that he finds me disappointing
  12. Says something insulting about my mom
  13. When I mention a time he has abused me, he either says "sorry" sarcastically or says something like "I don't believe you."
  14. When I make a mistake, he condescendingly provides unconstructive criticism like "Why didn't you do it differently? You could've handled that better."
  15. When I mention his abusive behavior, he diminishes my experience by drawing comparisons to those who suffer more [extensively from abuse]
  16. Says something like "You're just saying that to satisfy me."
  17. Says something like, "When you're older, you're going to ask me for a place to live, and I'll turn a deaf ear."
  18. After being reproved or critiqued, he asks, "What are you going to do about it?"
  19. When I try to address an issue, he completely misses the point of my argument
  20. Brings up my mistakes or "wrongdoings" from weeks, months, or even years ago
  21. Says something like, "You never try [(hard enough)]."
  22. Becomes physically abusive
  23. Berates me for a while, goes away, then comes back to scold me again
  24. Shoos me away