ShoosmeawayBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoWhen I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]Mocks mycharacteror actionsSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."Saysthe r-slurSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomMentions thathe finds medisappointingBerates mefor longerthan 30minutesSayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."During a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Sayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."Berates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againGoesoff on atangentMentionsthat IembarrasshimSays somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."After beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Tries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."BecomesphysicallyabusiveDoesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictAfter I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)When I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentShoosmeawayBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoWhen I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]Mocks mycharacteror actionsSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."Saysthe r-slurSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomMentions thathe finds medisappointingBerates mefor longerthan 30minutesSayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."During a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Sayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."Berates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againGoesoff on atangentMentionsthat IembarrasshimSays somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."After beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Tries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."BecomesphysicallyabusiveDoesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictAfter I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)When I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argument

Verbal Assault with Dad - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. Shoos me away
  2. Brings up my mistakes or "wrongdoings" from weeks, months, or even years ago
  3. When I mention his abusive behavior, he diminishes my experience by drawing comparisons to those who suffer more [extensively from abuse]
  4. Mocks my character or actions
  5. Says something like, "I've been holding this criticism for a while, and now I think it's time for me to share it."
  6. Says the r-slur
  7. Says something insulting about my mom
  8. Mentions that he finds me disappointing
  9. Berates me for longer than 30 minutes
  10. Says something like "You're just saying that to satisfy me."
  11. During a heated conversation, he tries to gain the upper hand by spotlighting minor details in my speech rather than addressing the main points of my argument
  12. When I mention a time he has abused me, he either says "sorry" sarcastically or says something like "I don't believe you."
  13. Says something like, "You never try [(hard enough)]."
  14. Berates me for a while, goes away, then comes back to scold me again
  15. Goes off on a tangent
  16. Mentions that I embarrass him
  17. Says something like, "When you're older, you're going to ask me for a place to live, and I'll turn a deaf ear."
  18. After being reproved or critiqued, he asks, "What are you going to do about it?"
  19. Tries to appeal to my sympathetic side by guilt-tripping me
  20. When I make a mistake, he condescendingly provides unconstructive criticism like "Why didn't you do it differently? You could've handled that better."
  21. Becomes physically abusive
  22. Doesn't admit responsibility for his actions, blames everyone but himself, or fails to recognize that he could be the source-of-conflict
  23. After I finish speaking, he responds with, "That's all?" (to undermine the value of what I've said)
  24. When I try to address an issue, he completely misses the point of my argument