After I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Sayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."Says somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."When I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentMentionsthat IembarrasshimBecomesphysicallyabusiveWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Goesoff on atangentWhen I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]After beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Sayssomethinginsultingabout mymomSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."ShoosmeawayBerates mefor longerthan 30minutesSaysthe r-slurMentions thathe finds medisappointingWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."Doesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictSayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Berates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentMocks mycharacteror actionsTries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoAfter I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Sayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."Says somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."When I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentMentionsthat IembarrasshimBecomesphysicallyabusiveWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Goesoff on atangentWhen I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]After beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Sayssomethinginsultingabout mymomSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."ShoosmeawayBerates mefor longerthan 30minutesSaysthe r-slurMentions thathe finds medisappointingWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."Doesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictSayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Berates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentMocks mycharacteror actionsTries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years ago

Verbal Assault with Dad - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. After I finish speaking, he responds with, "That's all?" (to undermine the value of what I've said)
  2. Says something like, "You never try [(hard enough)]."
  3. Says something like, "When you're older, you're going to ask me for a place to live, and I'll turn a deaf ear."
  4. When I try to address an issue, he completely misses the point of my argument
  5. Mentions that I embarrass him
  6. Becomes physically abusive
  7. When I mention a time he has abused me, he either says "sorry" sarcastically or says something like "I don't believe you."
  8. Goes off on a tangent
  9. When I mention his abusive behavior, he diminishes my experience by drawing comparisons to those who suffer more [extensively from abuse]
  10. After being reproved or critiqued, he asks, "What are you going to do about it?"
  11. Says something insulting about my mom
  12. Says something like, "I've been holding this criticism for a while, and now I think it's time for me to share it."
  13. Shoos me away
  14. Berates me for longer than 30 minutes
  15. Says the r-slur
  16. Mentions that he finds me disappointing
  17. When I make a mistake, he condescendingly provides unconstructive criticism like "Why didn't you do it differently? You could've handled that better."
  18. Doesn't admit responsibility for his actions, blames everyone but himself, or fails to recognize that he could be the source-of-conflict
  19. Says something like "You're just saying that to satisfy me."
  20. Berates me for a while, goes away, then comes back to scold me again
  21. During a heated conversation, he tries to gain the upper hand by spotlighting minor details in my speech rather than addressing the main points of my argument
  22. Mocks my character or actions
  23. Tries to appeal to my sympathetic side by guilt-tripping me
  24. Brings up my mistakes or "wrongdoings" from weeks, months, or even years ago