Says somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."Doesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictGoesoff on atangentMentions thathe finds medisappointingBecomesphysicallyabusiveTries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomAfter I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)When I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."Sayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."When I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]ShoosmeawaySaysthe r-slurWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Says somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."Berates mefor longerthan 30minutesAfter beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"During a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentWhen I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentMocks mycharacteror actionsSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."Mentionsthat IembarrasshimBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."Doesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictGoesoff on atangentMentions thathe finds medisappointingBecomesphysicallyabusiveTries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomAfter I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)When I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."Sayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."When I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]ShoosmeawaySaysthe r-slurWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Says somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."Berates mefor longerthan 30minutesAfter beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"During a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentWhen I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentMocks mycharacteror actionsSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."Mentionsthat IembarrasshimBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years ago

Verbal Assault with Dad - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. Says something like, "I've been holding this criticism for a while, and now I think it's time for me to share it."
  2. Doesn't admit responsibility for his actions, blames everyone but himself, or fails to recognize that he could be the source-of-conflict
  3. Goes off on a tangent
  4. Mentions that he finds me disappointing
  5. Becomes physically abusive
  6. Tries to appeal to my sympathetic side by guilt-tripping me
  7. Berates me for a while, goes away, then comes back to scold me again
  8. Says something insulting about my mom
  9. After I finish speaking, he responds with, "That's all?" (to undermine the value of what I've said)
  10. When I make a mistake, he condescendingly provides unconstructive criticism like "Why didn't you do it differently? You could've handled that better."
  11. Says something like "You're just saying that to satisfy me."
  12. When I mention his abusive behavior, he diminishes my experience by drawing comparisons to those who suffer more [extensively from abuse]
  13. Shoos me away
  14. Says the r-slur
  15. When I mention a time he has abused me, he either says "sorry" sarcastically or says something like "I don't believe you."
  16. Says something like, "When you're older, you're going to ask me for a place to live, and I'll turn a deaf ear."
  17. Berates me for longer than 30 minutes
  18. After being reproved or critiqued, he asks, "What are you going to do about it?"
  19. During a heated conversation, he tries to gain the upper hand by spotlighting minor details in my speech rather than addressing the main points of my argument
  20. When I try to address an issue, he completely misses the point of my argument
  21. Mocks my character or actions
  22. Says something like, "You never try [(hard enough)]."
  23. Mentions that I embarrass him
  24. Brings up my mistakes or "wrongdoings" from weeks, months, or even years ago