During a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentWhen I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentMentionsthat IembarrasshimShoosmeawaySays somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."Sayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."Mentions thathe finds medisappointingWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Mocks mycharacteror actionsSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomSaysthe r-slurDoesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictBerates mefor longerthan 30minutesBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoBecomesphysicallyabusiveAfter beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Sayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Goesoff on atangentTries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."When I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]Berates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."After I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)During a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentWhen I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentMentionsthat IembarrasshimShoosmeawaySays somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."Sayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."Mentions thathe finds medisappointingWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Mocks mycharacteror actionsSayssomethinginsultingabout mymomSaysthe r-slurDoesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictBerates mefor longerthan 30minutesBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoBecomesphysicallyabusiveAfter beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Sayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Goesoff on atangentTries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meSays somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."When I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]Berates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."After I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)

Verbal Assault with Dad - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. During a heated conversation, he tries to gain the upper hand by spotlighting minor details in my speech rather than addressing the main points of my argument
  2. When I try to address an issue, he completely misses the point of my argument
  3. Mentions that I embarrass him
  4. Shoos me away
  5. Says something like, "When you're older, you're going to ask me for a place to live, and I'll turn a deaf ear."
  6. Says something like, "You never try [(hard enough)]."
  7. Mentions that he finds me disappointing
  8. When I mention a time he has abused me, he either says "sorry" sarcastically or says something like "I don't believe you."
  9. Mocks my character or actions
  10. Says something insulting about my mom
  11. Says the r-slur
  12. Doesn't admit responsibility for his actions, blames everyone but himself, or fails to recognize that he could be the source-of-conflict
  13. Berates me for longer than 30 minutes
  14. Brings up my mistakes or "wrongdoings" from weeks, months, or even years ago
  15. Becomes physically abusive
  16. After being reproved or critiqued, he asks, "What are you going to do about it?"
  17. Says something like "You're just saying that to satisfy me."
  18. Goes off on a tangent
  19. Tries to appeal to my sympathetic side by guilt-tripping me
  20. Says something like, "I've been holding this criticism for a while, and now I think it's time for me to share it."
  21. When I mention his abusive behavior, he diminishes my experience by drawing comparisons to those who suffer more [extensively from abuse]
  22. Berates me for a while, goes away, then comes back to scold me again
  23. When I make a mistake, he condescendingly provides unconstructive criticism like "Why didn't you do it differently? You could've handled that better."
  24. After I finish speaking, he responds with, "That's all?" (to undermine the value of what I've said)