Sayssomethinginsultingabout mymomDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."When I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Says somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."After beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Mentionsthat IembarrasshimGoesoff on atangentSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."Tries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meShoosmeawayWhen I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]Doesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoAfter I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Berates mefor longerthan 30minutesBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againMocks mycharacteror actionsMentions thathe finds medisappointingBecomesphysicallyabusiveSaysthe r-slurSayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Says somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."Sayssomethinginsultingabout mymomDuring a heatedconversation, he triesto gain the upper handby spotlighting minordetails in my speechrather than addressingthe main points of myargumentWhen I make amistake, hecondescendinglyprovidesunconstructive criticismlike "Why didn't you doit differently? Youcould've handled thatbetter."When I try toaddress anissue, hecompletelymisses the pointof my argumentWhen I mention atime he has abusedme, he either says"sorry" sarcasticallyor says somethinglike "I don't believeyou."Says somethinglike, "When you'reolder, you're goingto ask me for aplace to live, andI'll turn a deaf ear."After beingreproved orcritiqued, heasks, "What areyou going to doabout it?"Mentionsthat IembarrasshimGoesoff on atangentSayssomething like,"You never try[(hardenough)]."Tries toappeal to mysympatheticside by guilt-tripping meShoosmeawayWhen I mention hisabusive behavior, hediminishes myexperience bydrawing comparisonsto those who suffermore [extensivelyfrom abuse]Doesn't admitresponsibility for hisactions, blameseveryone but himself,or fails to recognizethat he could be thesource-of-conflictBrings up mymistakes or"wrongdoings"from weeks,months, oreven years agoAfter I finishspeaking, heresponds with,"That's all?" (toundermine thevalue of what I'vesaid)Berates mefor longerthan 30minutesBerates me fora while, goesaway, thencomes back toscold me againMocks mycharacteror actionsMentions thathe finds medisappointingBecomesphysicallyabusiveSaysthe r-slurSayssomething like"You're justsaying that tosatisfy me."Says somethinglike, "I've beenholding thiscriticism for awhile, and now Ithink it's time forme to share it."

Verbal Assault with Dad - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. Says something insulting about my mom
  2. During a heated conversation, he tries to gain the upper hand by spotlighting minor details in my speech rather than addressing the main points of my argument
  3. When I make a mistake, he condescendingly provides unconstructive criticism like "Why didn't you do it differently? You could've handled that better."
  4. When I try to address an issue, he completely misses the point of my argument
  5. When I mention a time he has abused me, he either says "sorry" sarcastically or says something like "I don't believe you."
  6. Says something like, "When you're older, you're going to ask me for a place to live, and I'll turn a deaf ear."
  7. After being reproved or critiqued, he asks, "What are you going to do about it?"
  8. Mentions that I embarrass him
  9. Goes off on a tangent
  10. Says something like, "You never try [(hard enough)]."
  11. Tries to appeal to my sympathetic side by guilt-tripping me
  12. Shoos me away
  13. When I mention his abusive behavior, he diminishes my experience by drawing comparisons to those who suffer more [extensively from abuse]
  14. Doesn't admit responsibility for his actions, blames everyone but himself, or fails to recognize that he could be the source-of-conflict
  15. Brings up my mistakes or "wrongdoings" from weeks, months, or even years ago
  16. After I finish speaking, he responds with, "That's all?" (to undermine the value of what I've said)
  17. Berates me for longer than 30 minutes
  18. Berates me for a while, goes away, then comes back to scold me again
  19. Mocks my character or actions
  20. Mentions that he finds me disappointing
  21. Becomes physically abusive
  22. Says the r-slur
  23. Says something like "You're just saying that to satisfy me."
  24. Says something like, "I've been holding this criticism for a while, and now I think it's time for me to share it."