Treating amunch like aspeed-datingevent.Treating amunch like aspeed-datingevent.Makingjokes aboutlimits andboundariesUsingsomeoneas a kinkdispenserInability toeffectivelyapologize.Subtlepressuretactics topushboundariesInvadesprivacy oroverstepspersonalboundariesEmotionallymanipulative"I don’tbelieve thatDoms needafter care"Going up to astranger in apublic place andtelling them theyrecognized themfrom FetLife."You are thedom, youshould knowwhat I wantwithout metelling you"Free!"I can havemultiplepartners, butyou cannot"Does notrespectlimitsTrying to invalidateanyone's personalexperience thatled to a personallimit.Frequentcriticism"How dareyouquestionme?"Lack ofconcern foremotionalwell-beingAsking forintimatepics at thestart"You are thedom, youshould knowwhat I wantwithout metelling you"Does notbelieve ingettingregularlytestedDM astranger asexualfantasyRefusing toeducatingthemselveson safe kinkpracticesNotinterestedinfeedbackStalkingConsentingUp during asceneDoes notbelieve ingettingregularlytestedLittle selfawarenessof owntriggers andlimitationsFollowing astranger outof an event,to their car.Weaponizedincompetence.NeglectingsafetyprecautionsFrequentcriticismWants tomeetsomewheresecluded inthe first meetCommenting onsomeonepicture/writingabout a fantasythey haveCommenting onsomeonepicture/writingabout a fantasythey havePhysicalaggression"I don’t careif you’reupset; justfolloworders."LovebombingConstantlydeletestexthistoryTreating amunch like aspeed-datingevent.Treating amunch like aspeed-datingevent.Makingjokes aboutlimits andboundariesUsingsomeoneas a kinkdispenserInability toeffectivelyapologize.Subtlepressuretactics topushboundariesInvadesprivacy oroverstepspersonalboundariesEmotionallymanipulative"I don’tbelieve thatDoms needafter care"Going up to astranger in apublic place andtelling them theyrecognized themfrom FetLife."You are thedom, youshould knowwhat I wantwithout metelling you"Free!"I can havemultiplepartners, butyou cannot"Does notrespectlimitsTrying to invalidateanyone's personalexperience thatled to a personallimit.Frequentcriticism"How dareyouquestionme?"Lack ofconcern foremotionalwell-beingAsking forintimatepics at thestart"You are thedom, youshould knowwhat I wantwithout metelling you"Does notbelieve ingettingregularlytestedDM astranger asexualfantasyRefusing toeducatingthemselveson safe kinkpracticesNotinterestedinfeedbackStalkingConsentingUp during asceneDoes notbelieve ingettingregularlytestedLittle selfawarenessof owntriggers andlimitationsFollowing astranger outof an event,to their car.Weaponizedincompetence.NeglectingsafetyprecautionsFrequentcriticismWants tomeetsomewheresecluded inthe first meetCommenting onsomeonepicture/writingabout a fantasythey haveCommenting onsomeonepicture/writingabout a fantasythey havePhysicalaggression"I don’t careif you’reupset; justfolloworders."LovebombingConstantlydeletestexthistory

Red Flags - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. Treating a munch like a speed-dating event.
  2. Treating a munch like a speed-dating event.
  3. Making jokes about limits and boundaries
  4. Using someone as a kink dispenser
  5. Inability to effectively apologize.
  6. Subtle pressure tactics to push boundaries
  7. Invades privacy or oversteps personal boundaries
  8. Emotionally manipulative
  9. "I don’t believe that Doms need after care"
  10. Going up to a stranger in a public place and telling them they recognized them from FetLife.
  11. "You are the dom, you should know what I want without me telling you"
  12. Free!
  13. "I can have multiple partners, but you cannot"
  14. Does not respect limits
  15. Trying to invalidate anyone's personal experience that led to a personal limit.
  16. Frequent criticism
  17. "How dare you question me?"
  18. Lack of concern for emotional well-being
  19. Asking for intimate pics at the start
  20. "You are the dom, you should know what I want without me telling you"
  21. Does not believe in getting regularly tested
  22. DM a stranger a sexual fantasy
  23. Refusing to educating themselves on safe kink practices
  24. Not interested in feedback
  25. Stalking
  26. Consenting Up during a scene
  27. Does not believe in getting regularly tested
  28. Little self awareness of own triggers and limitations
  29. Following a stranger out of an event, to their car.
  30. Weaponized incompetence.
  31. Neglecting safety precautions
  32. Frequent criticism
  33. Wants to meet somewhere secluded in the first meet
  34. Commenting on someone picture/writing about a fantasy they have
  35. Commenting on someone picture/writing about a fantasy they have
  36. Physical aggression
  37. "I don’t care if you’re upset; just follow orders."
  38. Love bombing
  39. Constantly deletes text history