FrequentcriticismAsking forintimatepics at thestartTrying to invalidateanyone's personalexperience thatled to a personallimit.Treating amunch like aspeed-datingevent.StalkingWants tomeetsomewheresecluded inthe first meetCommenting onsomeonepicture/writingabout a fantasythey haveInvadesprivacy oroverstepspersonalboundariesDoes notbelieve ingettingregularlytested"I don’t careif you’reupset; justfolloworders.""I don’tbelieve thatDoms needafter care""You are thedom, youshould knowwhat I wantwithout metelling you"Usingsomeoneas a kinkdispenserEmotionallymanipulative"I can havemultiplepartners, butyou cannot"Following astranger outof an event,to their car.LovebombingConsentingUp during asceneDoes notrespectlimitsLittle selfawarenessof owntriggers andlimitationsWeaponizedincompetence.Notinterestedinfeedback"How dareyouquestionme?"Going up to astranger in apublic place andtelling them theyrecognized themfrom FetLife.Free!Refusing toeducatingthemselveson safe kinkpracticesConstantlydeletestexthistoryDM astranger asexualfantasyPhysicalaggressionSubtlepressuretactics topushboundariesInability toeffectivelyapologize.Lack ofconcern foremotionalwell-beingMakingjokes aboutlimits andboundariesNeglectingsafetyprecautionsFrequentcriticismAsking forintimatepics at thestartTrying to invalidateanyone's personalexperience thatled to a personallimit.Treating amunch like aspeed-datingevent.StalkingWants tomeetsomewheresecluded inthe first meetCommenting onsomeonepicture/writingabout a fantasythey haveInvadesprivacy oroverstepspersonalboundariesDoes notbelieve ingettingregularlytested"I don’t careif you’reupset; justfolloworders.""I don’tbelieve thatDoms needafter care""You are thedom, youshould knowwhat I wantwithout metelling you"Usingsomeoneas a kinkdispenserEmotionallymanipulative"I can havemultiplepartners, butyou cannot"Following astranger outof an event,to their car.LovebombingConsentingUp during asceneDoes notrespectlimitsLittle selfawarenessof owntriggers andlimitationsWeaponizedincompetence.Notinterestedinfeedback"How dareyouquestionme?"Going up to astranger in apublic place andtelling them theyrecognized themfrom FetLife.Free!Refusing toeducatingthemselveson safe kinkpracticesConstantlydeletestexthistoryDM astranger asexualfantasyPhysicalaggressionSubtlepressuretactics topushboundariesInability toeffectivelyapologize.Lack ofconcern foremotionalwell-beingMakingjokes aboutlimits andboundariesNeglectingsafetyprecautions

Red Flags - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. Frequent criticism
  2. Asking for intimate pics at the start
  3. Trying to invalidate anyone's personal experience that led to a personal limit.
  4. Treating a munch like a speed-dating event.
  5. Stalking
  6. Wants to meet somewhere secluded in the first meet
  7. Commenting on someone picture/writing about a fantasy they have
  8. Invades privacy or oversteps personal boundaries
  9. Does not believe in getting regularly tested
  10. "I don’t care if you’re upset; just follow orders."
  11. "I don’t believe that Doms need after care"
  12. "You are the dom, you should know what I want without me telling you"
  13. Using someone as a kink dispenser
  14. Emotionally manipulative
  15. "I can have multiple partners, but you cannot"
  16. Following a stranger out of an event, to their car.
  17. Love bombing
  18. Consenting Up during a scene
  19. Does not respect limits
  20. Little self awareness of own triggers and limitations
  21. Weaponized incompetence.
  22. Not interested in feedback
  23. "How dare you question me?"
  24. Going up to a stranger in a public place and telling them they recognized them from FetLife.
  25. Free!
  26. Refusing to educating themselves on safe kink practices
  27. Constantly deletes text history
  28. DM a stranger a sexual fantasy
  29. Physical aggression
  30. Subtle pressure tactics to push boundaries
  31. Inability to effectively apologize.
  32. Lack of concern for emotional well-being
  33. Making jokes about limits and boundaries
  34. Neglecting safety precautions