Commenting onsomeonepicture/writingabout a fantasythey haveDM astranger asexualfantasyInability toeffectivelyapologize.FrequentcriticismLovebombingConstantlydeletestexthistoryInvadesprivacy oroverstepspersonalboundariesGoing up to astranger in apublic place andtelling them theyrecognized themfrom FetLife.ConsentingUp during asceneWeaponizedincompetence.Trying to invalidateanyone's personalexperience thatled to a personallimit."I don’tbelieve thatDoms needafter care"NotinterestedinfeedbackAsking forintimatepics at thestart"You are thedom, youshould knowwhat I wantwithout metelling you""I don’t careif you’reupset; justfolloworders.""How dareyouquestionme?"NeglectingsafetyprecautionsLittle selfawarenessof owntriggers andlimitationsEmotionallymanipulativeWants tomeetsomewheresecluded inthe first meetFree!Treating amunch like aspeed-datingevent.Refusing toeducatingthemselveson safe kinkpracticesLack ofconcern foremotionalwell-beingDoes notrespectlimitsDoes notbelieve ingettingregularlytestedFollowing astranger outof an event,to their car.Usingsomeoneas a kinkdispenserSubtlepressuretactics topushboundaries"I can havemultiplepartners, butyou cannot"Makingjokes aboutlimits andboundariesPhysicalaggressionStalkingCommenting onsomeonepicture/writingabout a fantasythey haveDM astranger asexualfantasyInability toeffectivelyapologize.FrequentcriticismLovebombingConstantlydeletestexthistoryInvadesprivacy oroverstepspersonalboundariesGoing up to astranger in apublic place andtelling them theyrecognized themfrom FetLife.ConsentingUp during asceneWeaponizedincompetence.Trying to invalidateanyone's personalexperience thatled to a personallimit."I don’tbelieve thatDoms needafter care"NotinterestedinfeedbackAsking forintimatepics at thestart"You are thedom, youshould knowwhat I wantwithout metelling you""I don’t careif you’reupset; justfolloworders.""How dareyouquestionme?"NeglectingsafetyprecautionsLittle selfawarenessof owntriggers andlimitationsEmotionallymanipulativeWants tomeetsomewheresecluded inthe first meetFree!Treating amunch like aspeed-datingevent.Refusing toeducatingthemselveson safe kinkpracticesLack ofconcern foremotionalwell-beingDoes notrespectlimitsDoes notbelieve ingettingregularlytestedFollowing astranger outof an event,to their car.Usingsomeoneas a kinkdispenserSubtlepressuretactics topushboundaries"I can havemultiplepartners, butyou cannot"Makingjokes aboutlimits andboundariesPhysicalaggressionStalking

Red Flags - Call List

(Print) Use this randomly generated list as your call list when playing the game. There is no need to say the BINGO column name. Place some kind of mark (like an X, a checkmark, a dot, tally mark, etc) on each cell as you announce it, to keep track. You can also cut out each item, place them in a bag and pull words from the bag.


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  1. Commenting on someone picture/writing about a fantasy they have
  2. DM a stranger a sexual fantasy
  3. Inability to effectively apologize.
  4. Frequent criticism
  5. Love bombing
  6. Constantly deletes text history
  7. Invades privacy or oversteps personal boundaries
  8. Going up to a stranger in a public place and telling them they recognized them from FetLife.
  9. Consenting Up during a scene
  10. Weaponized incompetence.
  11. Trying to invalidate anyone's personal experience that led to a personal limit.
  12. "I don’t believe that Doms need after care"
  13. Not interested in feedback
  14. Asking for intimate pics at the start
  15. "You are the dom, you should know what I want without me telling you"
  16. "I don’t care if you’re upset; just follow orders."
  17. "How dare you question me?"
  18. Neglecting safety precautions
  19. Little self awareness of own triggers and limitations
  20. Emotionally manipulative
  21. Wants to meet somewhere secluded in the first meet
  22. Free!
  23. Treating a munch like a speed-dating event.
  24. Refusing to educating themselves on safe kink practices
  25. Lack of concern for emotional well-being
  26. Does not respect limits
  27. Does not believe in getting regularly tested
  28. Following a stranger out of an event, to their car.
  29. Using someone as a kink dispenser
  30. Subtle pressure tactics to push boundaries
  31. "I can have multiple partners, but you cannot"
  32. Making jokes about limits and boundaries
  33. Physical aggression
  34. Stalking