Communication Not communicating Happiness & fun Supporting one another Believing someone when they share they are being hurt or abused Righttobe.org Unwanted, pressured, or forced physical contact Asking what you can do to offer support Supportive adults & friends to talk to Be patient Fairness & equality Dismissing feelings or concerns Not taking responsibility for abusive behavior Listening Learning each other’s boundaries Threatening to hurt themselves if you break up Pressure to change or feeling like you have to change to be accepted Building each other up Being yourself Respecting boundaries (physical, emotional, digital, sexual) Compromise Asking for consent Valuing each other’s feelings Hcwc.org Threatening to spread rumors or actually spreading rumors Physical harm (hitting, pushing, throwing things) Supporting them in making the decision best for them Yelling & screaming Verbal or physical threats Communicating about feelings or concerns Honesty Communication that is hurtful or threatening Spending time together & reminding them they aren’t alone Being encouraging & supportive Mutual respect Not being considerate of feelings or boundaries Dishonesty Checking In Only spending time with each other Loveisrespect.org Safety planning Pushing boundaries Stalking Telling someone what to wear or not wear Making time for yourself & self-care Reminders that abuse is not their fault Lack of trust Feeling unsafe or scared Validate their feelings Making decisions together Safety & support Inequality (one partner’s feelings, goals, and desires always come first) Respecting boundaries & everyone’s right to say no Apologizing for mistakes and hurtful behavior Supporting interests & goals Taking responsibility Enjoying time together and apart Mutual respect Limiting time with friends & family Holding each other to the same standards Using social media to track activities or friends Looking through phone, social media, or email without consent Pressure to share passwords & passcodes Patience & understanding Feeling like you can be yourself Moving at a comfortable pace Put downs & insults Trust Extreme jealousy Pressure or force to do things you don’t want to do Communication Not communicating Happiness & fun Supporting one another Believing someone when they share they are being hurt or abused Righttobe.org Unwanted, pressured, or forced physical contact Asking what you can do to offer support Supportive adults & friends to talk to Be patient Fairness & equality Dismissing feelings or concerns Not taking responsibility for abusive behavior Listening Learning each other’s boundaries Threatening to hurt themselves if you break up Pressure to change or feeling like you have to change to be accepted Building each other up Being yourself Respecting boundaries (physical, emotional, digital, sexual) Compromise Asking for consent Valuing each other’s feelings Hcwc.org Threatening to spread rumors or actually spreading rumors Physical harm (hitting, pushing, throwing things) Supporting them in making the decision best for them Yelling & screaming Verbal or physical threats Communicating about feelings or concerns Honesty Communication that is hurtful or threatening Spending time together & reminding them they aren’t alone Being encouraging & supportive Mutual respect Not being considerate of feelings or boundaries Dishonesty Checking In Only spending time with each other Loveisrespect.org Safety planning Pushing boundaries Stalking Telling someone what to wear or not wear Making time for yourself & self-care Reminders that abuse is not their fault Lack of trust Feeling unsafe or scared Validate their feelings Making decisions together Safety & support Inequality (one partner’s feelings, goals, and desires always come first) Respecting boundaries & everyone’s right to say no Apologizing for mistakes and hurtful behavior Supporting interests & goals Taking responsibility Enjoying time together and apart Mutual respect Limiting time with friends & family Holding each other to the same standards Using social media to track activities or friends Looking through phone, social media, or email without consent Pressure to share passwords & passcodes Patience & understanding Feeling like you can be yourself Moving at a comfortable pace Put downs & insults Trust Extreme jealousy Pressure or force to do things you don’t want to do
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B-Communication
I-Not communicating
B-Happiness & fun
B-Supporting one another
G-Believing someone when they share they are being hurt or abused
G-Righttobe.org
N-Unwanted, pressured, or forced physical contact
G-Asking what you can do to offer support
G-Supportive adults & friends to talk to
G-Be patient
B-Fairness & equality
I-Dismissing feelings or concerns
N-Not taking responsibility for abusive behavior
G-Listening
O-Learning each other’s boundaries
N-Threatening to hurt themselves if you break up
I-Pressure to change or feeling like you have to change to be accepted
O-Building each other up
O-Being yourself
B-Respecting boundaries (physical, emotional, digital, sexual)
O-Compromise
B-Asking for consent
O-Valuing each other’s feelings
G-Hcwc.org
N-Threatening to spread rumors or actually spreading rumors
N-Physical harm (hitting, pushing, throwing things)
G-Supporting them in making the decision best for them
N-Yelling & screaming
N-Verbal or physical threats
O-Communicating about feelings or concerns
B-Honesty
N-Communication that is hurtful or threatening
G-Spending time together & reminding them they aren’t alone
O-Being encouraging & supportive
I-Mutual respect Not being considerate of feelings or boundaries
I-Dishonesty
G-Checking In
I-Only spending time with each other
G-Loveisrespect.org
G-Safety planning
I-Pushing boundaries
N-Stalking
I-Telling someone what to wear or not wear
O-Making time for yourself & self-care
G-Reminders that abuse is not their fault
I-Lack of trust
I-Feeling unsafe or scared
G-Validate their feelings
O-Making decisions together
B-Safety & support
I-Inequality (one partner’s feelings, goals, and desires always come first)
O-Respecting boundaries & everyone’s right to say no
O-Apologizing for mistakes and hurtful behavior
O-Supporting interests & goals
O-Taking responsibility
B-Enjoying time together and apart
B-Mutual respect
I-Limiting time with friends & family
B-Holding each other to the same standards
N-Using social media to track activities or friends
N-Looking through phone, social media, or email without consent
I-Pressure to share passwords & passcodes
O-Patience & understanding
B-Feeling like you can be yourself
B-Moving at a comfortable pace
N-Put downs & insults
B-Trust
I-Extreme jealousy
N-Pressure or force to do things you don’t want to do
