Threatening to spread rumors or actually spreading rumors Limiting time with friends & family Enjoying time together and apart Communication Holding each other to the same standards Fairness & equality Mutual respect Patience & understanding Feeling unsafe or scared Learning each other’s boundaries Mutual respect Not being considerate of feelings or boundaries Inequality (one partner’s feelings, goals, and desires always come first) Threatening to hurt themselves if you break up Honesty Pressure to share passwords & passcodes Validate their feelings Being yourself Lack of trust Extreme jealousy Communicating about feelings or concerns Supporting interests & goals Making time for yourself & self-care Moving at a comfortable pace Righttobe.org Respecting boundaries (physical, emotional, digital, sexual) Apologizing for mistakes and hurtful behavior Respecting boundaries & everyone’s right to say no Asking for consent Dishonesty Checking In Unwanted, pressured, or forced physical contact Put downs & insults Pressure or force to do things you don’t want to do Only spending time with each other Using social media to track activities or friends Spending time together & reminding them they aren’t alone Reminders that abuse is not their fault Verbal or physical threats Believing someone when they share they are being hurt or abused Be patient Supporting them in making the decision best for them Supportive adults & friends to talk to Making decisions together Telling someone what to wear or not wear Not taking responsibility for abusive behavior Compromise Pressure to change or feeling like you have to change to be accepted Listening Hcwc.org Valuing each other’s feelings Supporting one another Stalking Pushing boundaries Looking through phone, social media, or email without consent Being encouraging & supportive Feeling like you can be yourself Happiness & fun Yelling & screaming Taking responsibility Building each other up Trust Communication that is hurtful or threatening Loveisrespect.org Dismissing feelings or concerns Safety & support Safety planning Physical harm (hitting, pushing, throwing things) Not communicating Asking what you can do to offer support Threatening to spread rumors or actually spreading rumors Limiting time with friends & family Enjoying time together and apart Communication Holding each other to the same standards Fairness & equality Mutual respect Patience & understanding Feeling unsafe or scared Learning each other’s boundaries Mutual respect Not being considerate of feelings or boundaries Inequality (one partner’s feelings, goals, and desires always come first) Threatening to hurt themselves if you break up Honesty Pressure to share passwords & passcodes Validate their feelings Being yourself Lack of trust Extreme jealousy Communicating about feelings or concerns Supporting interests & goals Making time for yourself & self-care Moving at a comfortable pace Righttobe.org Respecting boundaries (physical, emotional, digital, sexual) Apologizing for mistakes and hurtful behavior Respecting boundaries & everyone’s right to say no Asking for consent Dishonesty Checking In Unwanted, pressured, or forced physical contact Put downs & insults Pressure or force to do things you don’t want to do Only spending time with each other Using social media to track activities or friends Spending time together & reminding them they aren’t alone Reminders that abuse is not their fault Verbal or physical threats Believing someone when they share they are being hurt or abused Be patient Supporting them in making the decision best for them Supportive adults & friends to talk to Making decisions together Telling someone what to wear or not wear Not taking responsibility for abusive behavior Compromise Pressure to change or feeling like you have to change to be accepted Listening Hcwc.org Valuing each other’s feelings Supporting one another Stalking Pushing boundaries Looking through phone, social media, or email without consent Being encouraging & supportive Feeling like you can be yourself Happiness & fun Yelling & screaming Taking responsibility Building each other up Trust Communication that is hurtful or threatening Loveisrespect.org Dismissing feelings or concerns Safety & support Safety planning Physical harm (hitting, pushing, throwing things) Not communicating Asking what you can do to offer support
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N-Threatening to spread rumors or actually spreading rumors
I-Limiting time with friends & family
B-Enjoying time together and apart
B-Communication
B-Holding each other to the same standards
B-Fairness & equality
B-Mutual respect
O-Patience & understanding
I-Feeling unsafe or scared
O-Learning each other’s boundaries
I-Mutual respect Not being considerate of feelings or boundaries
I-Inequality (one partner’s feelings, goals, and desires always come first)
N-Threatening to hurt themselves if you break up
B-Honesty
I-Pressure to share passwords & passcodes
G-Validate their feelings
O-Being yourself
I-Lack of trust
I-Extreme jealousy
O-Communicating about feelings or concerns
O-Supporting interests & goals
O-Making time for yourself & self-care
B-Moving at a comfortable pace
G-Righttobe.org
B-Respecting boundaries (physical, emotional, digital, sexual)
O-Apologizing for mistakes and hurtful behavior
O-Respecting boundaries & everyone’s right to say no
B-Asking for consent
I-Dishonesty
G-Checking In
N-Unwanted, pressured, or forced physical contact
N-Put downs & insults
N-Pressure or force to do things you don’t want to do
I-Only spending time with each other
N-Using social media to track activities or friends
G-Spending time together & reminding them they aren’t alone
G-Reminders that abuse is not their fault
N-Verbal or physical threats
G-Believing someone when they share they are being hurt or abused
G-Be patient
G-Supporting them in making the decision best for them
G-Supportive adults & friends to talk to
O-Making decisions together
I-Telling someone what to wear or not wear
N-Not taking responsibility for abusive behavior
O-Compromise
I-Pressure to change or feeling like you have to change to be accepted
G-Listening
G-Hcwc.org
O-Valuing each other’s feelings
B-Supporting one another
N-Stalking
I-Pushing boundaries
N-Looking through phone, social media, or email without consent
O-Being encouraging & supportive
B-Feeling like you can be yourself
B-Happiness & fun
N-Yelling & screaming
O-Taking responsibility
O-Building each other up
B-Trust
N-Communication that is hurtful or threatening
G-Loveisrespect.org
I-Dismissing feelings or concerns
B-Safety & support
G-Safety planning
N-Physical harm (hitting, pushing, throwing things)
I-Not communicating
G-Asking what you can do to offer support
